Grandkids to much for parents

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Does anyone feel like when your children are around their grandparents that they don't want to be around them to often as they get a little giddy and sometimes don't listen?

I feel like this quite often recently and it's making me distance myself and the kids from them. Not take them round to the house that often. My kids aren't really naughty but they are 2 and 7 and sometimes get giddy and chase each other around which therefore means they sometimes don't listen and I find my parents shouting at them and huffing and puffing a lot.

It sounds a bit chaotic do they have toys/screens at gps house ? But yes it can be too much maybe don't stay as long or invite parents to you so they can leave.

I think you have to realise that you’re immune to your children’s ways, other people are not. I can not tell you how stressful it is to be other people’s kids. DD is now 11 and I find I’m less tolerant of other people’s kids as I get older.

I think it would be appropriate if you visited less regularly while your kids are in this ‘hyper and not listening’ phase. It shall pass but you’d be amazed how much of your children’s behaviour goes over your head because you are used to it.

Thank you for the replies and advice.

I feel like this too unfortunately. My dc are generally fine, but they are lively and they do argue sometimes. My parents can't seem to tolerate any arguing or noise and it makes for a very uncomfortable time when we visit.

I have been reading a book about teens and it has made it much clearer for me. Children today are now raised in a much more child-centred way - they are not governed by fear of harsh punishments anymore and are generally more likely to be cheeky and disrespectful.

I think Grandparents can't always understand this and expect dc to behave in the same way they did. 🤷‍♀️

Yes constantly
I have a guilty conscience and hate taking them round I don't end up relaxing, quite the opposite!! I make sure I'm watching them like a hawk!!!

I find more people are less tolerant of children these days? Regarding grandparents maybe because of age it's hard going

Is it something you could discuss with your parents - give them a call rather than while you're there and they're at the end of their tether.
Say you know the kids are a bit of a handful, would they like less visits/shorter visits/visits at the park/earplugs . Point out the kids are so excited as they love to see their grandparents.

Children today are now raised in a much more child-centred way - they are not governed by fear of harsh punishments anymore and are generally more likely to be cheeky and disrespectful.

Isn't it possible to teach children manners, and how to behave in someone else's home, without harsh punishments?

Absolutely Miss, but they are still being raised in a different way from how we or our parents were raised and so there are differences in the behaviours. Manners should definitely be expected, but children are generally more confident in themselves and often allowed to behave in a more carefree way, which may not be in a way the grandparent is happy/ familiar with.
Only an idea, but it does make some sense to me.

Yes, I think that in our case it's my mothers intolerance and short fuse that is the problem so I'm more for protecting my lo from her rather than the other way round.
My older child just won't go and visit any more.
I visit rarely.

Do they rampage around at home?
Is there stuff for them to do at grandparents?
When my grandchildren were younger I had loads of books to read to them, coloured pencils, felt-tips, glue, glitter, so there was always plenty for them to do, and the garden for them to play in.

That's how I feel too cross - my dc have a lovely time at in-laws house and I always feel at ease there.