Is this crossing a line?

[Tobbay]

If your other half was emailing a female colleague flirtatious things in French, would you see that a wrong?

Yes

One thing was "my absolute pleasure" over him doing a piece of work...
It doesn't sit right with me but he's telling me I'm in the wrong.
Need opinions..

Totally wrong

@chocolate123
I'm in the wrong or he is?

I say ‘my absolute pleasure’ was there anything else? To me that’s just a nice turn of phrase

My absolute pleasure, isn't something I would see at flirty.
There must be other stuff as well???

My absolute pleasure could be totally and utterly innocuous and not at all flirtacious. What else did he say?

Why don't you trust him? There must be other reasons

What other comments did he make? I dont know if my absolute pleasure if overly flirtatious. So i have to presume there are others to make you feel uncomfortable?

And you have to remember French is a very flowery language. Why use one word when six will do? We say "yours sincerely" - they say " please be assured of my very best sentiments".

Depends on what he’s saying. My absolute pleasure isn’t flirty by itself.

I meant he was wrong but on reading my pleasure I wouldn't think that's flirting. Is there more messages?

Yes "curiosity killed the cat you know 😉" was another...

In what context? Work context like finding out some else's salary then no problem. Colour of her pants then big problem.

Just these phrases can be explained in an innocent way. We need more context.

my absolute pleasure
curiosity killed the cat you know

Clearly that is some kind of sex code.

I mean I suppose some people might argue that going through his work email and interpreting fairly normal phrases as flirting is controlling; but this is MN, we'll have none of that. He's definitely having an affair- LTB.

OK, I just did an advanced search as I thought I recognised the OP. I recommend others do the same.

I shall simply say "Really, OP? Come on, what the fuck are you still playing at? I'm beginning to think you just like the drama of starting threads"

Why in French?

Op, really? What does it matter if it's flirty or not? It's not going to change anything is it?

I shall simply say "Really, OP? Come on, what the fuck are you still playing at? I'm beginning to think you just like the drama of starting threads"

Have to agree with the above. How many threads in 2 years about this loser? You obviously don't listen to a word anyone says so what's the point?

Well done ShatnersWig. She's been rumbled.

Tobbay, if this is the same guy you've been with for a while, you've been told to dump the loser many many times. If it's a new bloke, flirting not good but the phrases you have put are in no way flirty, and especially not in French which is a more expressive language. And if it is a new bloke you're not long out of the last mess so possibly too soon to be in another relationship

You're an absolute mug

Tobbay, if this is the same guy you've been with for a while, you've been told to dump the loser many many times.

If OP's posting history is true (a big if, I know) then this seems to be a new bloke, met shortly after breaking up with the dickhead, who is 'too nice'.