A would you Question?

[IsabellaMoltisantixx]

Would you forgive a guy you were seeing if they gave you an STD?
Or an ex?
If you were sleeping with ex and they made it clear they were just 'shagging' you, how would you react if you got an STD from them?

Would you accept it as a part of a risk with just shagging someone or would you be upset/hurt not forgive them
?

Please answer honestly

I'd be fucking fuming if they knew about it and never told me. I would see it as them knowingly putting my fertility/health at risk.

I'd give them a massive bollocking and would tell them to fuck off.

It's probably not a good idea to shag exes in general - too many unresolved emotions ime

I'd be livid!!

I think i would have to take my own share of responsibility. If you're having unprotected casual sex it's as much your fault as the other person's if you catch an STI. Unless you think they did it knowingly and maliciously blaming them feels like an excuse to avoid facing up to your own recklessness.

I'd probably take responsibility partly for not using protection when you know it's just sex and they're most likely also having sex with others

If they knew beforehand, I would be bloody livid and probably make sure they never had sex again!

Unfortunately, they did know beforehand
I recently found other texts of the ow he was sleeping with and they were discussing it in there about her saying she'd got an std and who was he going around with cos she wasn't!!! She also talks nasty about me saying probably "your skanky ex"

I looked at the dates and it was before I found out! I'm livid and so upset that's why I had to ask in here

I know it's my fault for sleeping with him unprotected etc but I have a lot of feelings for him so trusted him if that made sense it wasn't someone I jus met, known him for 15 years

It's best to get yourself treated OP and leave your ex alone. You say you have feelings for him but this is exactly why casual sex with an ex is s bad idea. There's too much unresolved feelings and you're likely to end up getting hurt as well as getting infections.

Hope you can get treated or are being treated for the STD. Tell this twat to jog on. He's probably lying/cheating on the other woman with you. He sounds like a loser. He's an ex for a reason.

I'd be furious. They didn't tell you. Ugh.

Ps: just because you have known some one for 15 doesn't mean they are free of disease.

He's beneath contempt then.

have a lot of feelings for him so trusted him

You need to learn a lesson and turn that the right way round - develop feelings for people who prove themselves to be trustworthy.

In regard to your OP, it's not a question over whether anyone would forgive a guy for this. I personally wouldn't as he knew about it beforehand.

The question is, can YOU forgive him? And further to that, do YOU really NEED to forgive? You don't owe this guy anything. Right now you're probably hurt and angry and rightly so.

In many weeks, months, years to come to may find you naturally 'forgive' him as this becomes a part of your life in the past if that makes sense. As in eventually it'll all seem like it happened in the distant past as the rest of your life unfolds. But you probably won't forget what he did.

You don't need to forgive him if you don't want to. In time you will stop thinking about it. He probably doesn't deserve forgiveness. Honestly just cut this guy loose. 15 years you've known him and he gives you an STD. There's no loyalty on his part, that's for sure.