25th Wedding Anniversary...

[emptynestx2]

So - tomorrow is our 25th anniversary, we have two fantastic grown up children, I’ve moved countries with him for his job and stayed together through two (hopefully) emotional affairs. We’ve obviously gone through lots of other ups and downs along the way, including the loss of both of my parents.

I posted at the time of the affairs and everyone said to leave - I didn’t as I didn’t know how and I still don’t know, we’re still abroad if that’s relevant. Sometimes I think it will be ok and others like today, I feel so sad.

I stupidly thought that tomorrow would be a chance for him to show he’s happy i’m still here and he talked of a night away or meal out, apparently he thought of lots of things but ultimately has done/planned nothing. I feel so sad. It’s not the money just the complete lack of any thought. He has ordered cards from moonpig but they haven’t arrived as yet.

I’m 53, I feel so old & past it all of a sudden - what’s the chance of finding a new life at my age?
Anyone felt similar with happy stories to tell me?

You have been through at lot. What would you like to do. Are there things left undone, ambitions unachieved. Can you make a start by giving yourself a decent 25th apart from the moon pig card.

Thanks for your reply poppy. I guess I just want to feel appreciated and loved. I have been through a lot and I feel in a bit of a bubble these days - not like me if that makes any sense?

Have you planned anything for him ?

F1 - no I haven’t, I was going to plan a meal or book somewhere but he said he was. I also admit that because of how he’s rocked our marriage I wanted him to show me he cared.

One of the ways you can escape a bubble is to leave it by bursting it and you go outside the bubble by doing something different. To do something different may be uncomfortable at first and you have to make yourself do it. Go out and make some new friends by trying different activities, it’s can be invigorating, exciting and fun.

Sports, meditation, yoga, running, walking, sailing ...... something challenging to your normal self. Smile. Meet people.

But first go out for a meal and arrange it yourself. If he doesn’t want to go ask somebody else or take yourself and ditch the bubble.

Tell us how you get on.

How did the day go ?