More chance of being hit by a meteorite than finding love at 46?

[MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl]

Just that really. I’ve been a lone parent with no help from the dad for over ten years. I’d love to find a special man to share my life with, but can’t help noticing most men on online dating are looking for women at least ten years younger. Should I just give up and buy fifty cats?

I'm 48 - been in a new relationship for 8 months with a bloke of 46, and so far so good :) (Not online dating though, met through work)
In some ways I think being late 40s is easier than late 30s/early 40s as it's generally post the stage of men looking for a 'last chance' to have children?

I think I’d rather be hit by a meteorite to be honest 😂

That is a lovely story Sadik, and gives me hope! Sadly I work with a bunch of twenty somethings but here’s hoping!
MadameJosephine I know what you mean. Trawling thru online dating sites is sometimes like looking thru a rogues gallery. All these fifty something men saying they want a ‘slim, athletic 25-35 year old with no kids’. Arghhhhhh

I don't actually work with him - was a work event. Only downside is we live 60 miles apart, but actually there's a lot to be said for it, we have a lovely time when we're together and don't have to squabble over who cleans the bathroom

Have to say also that my lovely - male - work colleague who is mid 40s met his now partner through Tinder, she's roughly the same age as him. (He's getting his head round living with young dc again though as his dc are teenagers!)

I'm 50 next month...Mum to a 9 year old. Met the most amazing man 3 years ago...OLD. We eloped/married in July anything is possible x

Currently 50, mum to two teenagers divorced few years and then met a lovely new man OLD been dating 2 years v much in love and happier than I ever was in 26 years of marriage.

The first thing I looked at on OLD was their age range. I wonder if they realise how creepy it makes them look at 50+ saying they'll take anything from 18 up? In fact I think I actually only contacted ones who would "even" be interested in women who were a couple of years older than them.

Fifty cats actually sounds great :) but I've met a couple of decent men since 45. Disclaimer: not looking for a second marriage or even cohabitation yet, though, which probably makes a difference. The latest is the most lovely and considerate guy I've been with, but we both prefer dating, and he has an 8-year-old with multiple parent figures around as it is.

Yep. Met DP at work at 46. 4 years later it's great. Nobody knows what is around the corner. I wasn't looking for it. Just happened.

I've never known anyone who was hit by a meteorite, but I do know a few who've found love in their 40s and 50s.

I know a widow of a little over 60, she's has very little sense of humour and the worst teeth (and breath) I have ever known in any person male or female. Her straggly grey hair often falls into her food, she wears the same variation on a theme drab clothing day in day out, I doubt she owns much if any make-up, I certainly have never see her wear any .

On the positive side she is one of the kindest, most reliable and most intelligent people I know. She has a new man in her life and he is smitten.

We all have reasons to be liked and loved.

Met mine one year after 20 years of unhappy marriage old. I’m 46, he is 39. Very much in love after 2 years. He is the one.

Over 50, and considering a puppy instead.

If that still seems like a good idea after Christmas, and I continue on a flexible schedule, then I am quite likely to go for it.

It's all luck, let's be honest.

I'm 44 and been single 8 years. I have a friend who is 41 been single 11 years. I have another friend who is 47 and been single 5 years. None of us have kids.

Conversely, I know people in their 40s with kids who have had no problem finding a new partner.

DP and I were both 46 when we got together. Met in real life, not online dating.

Friends who were visiting us this weekend also met in their 40s (I think through online dating, but not sure which site) and were married in less than a year. Another friend of mine in her late 40s has met a few decent blokes on tinder.

45, met someone after 14 years of single parenthood, at my running club. On paper, we would never have matched - but he is my everything,
Been together 2 years almost.

These are encouraging stories! Thank you everyone. Might put my down payment for a cargo of cats on hold for a wee while longer...

A close friend found the love of her life at 46. It is totally reciprocated. More so. She had given up and was see not looking for anyone. Met him when she changed jobs. She had thrown herself into hobbies and other things she enjoyed. Then just happened. (As someone with 3dcs hobbies are hard to get to!) My point is, it can happen.

Awwww. I'm 46 in a few months and recently single. I feel as free as a bird and dont doubt I'll meet someone eventually 😊