30, Single and want more children!

[HollyLM]

Hey everyone!

So, 30 and single with a 3 year old LG who I love with all my heart! I’d love to have more children in the future... but why do I feel like I’m running out of time to find my happy very after and be blessed with another child?

Am I being silly? Everyone tells me I am! And that I’m young and have plenty of time! xxx

I felt exactly like this when I split with ex and had our 7 year old felt like I'd left it way too late and there was gonna be a huge age gap IF I did end up having another
It didn't help I got diagnosed with endometriosis, weirdly enough I got pregnant with ex as we were still sleeping together (bad idea I know but we've always had amazing chemistry)
Got pregnant and last year and so happy, all I wanted was another dd and I think I'm much more settled and happy with life too also like the fact they both have the same dad
Don't worry, have faith it will happen

Awww that’s nice to hear that your really happy with things! Sounds like it’s worked out for you. Without being rude... how old are you? Sorry, 30 is giving me anxiety! hahaha xx

@HollyLM

Aww don't worry you're young I was 30/31 when I felt exactly like you described I'm
Now 33.
Fell pregnant at 32 unexpectedly as didn't think I'd get pregnant again because of endo! So I do believe in miracles! Even though there's a 10 year age gap , I'm embracing being a mother all over again. Honestly, babies being so many blessings, even if you have a baby with someone and it doesn't work out you'll always have your children :) your dd is only three so plenty of time!!!

They say 35 and above is when fertility STARTS to slowly decline don't worry! I think they say that because they're worried about autism, difficult births , ds etc you have plenty of time ! Take each day and enjoy

like the fact they both have the same dad.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. But I don’t think children having the same dad is some sort of an accomplishment, though it does make things easier. But I would rather a single (female) parent, walk away from a loveless/ destructive relationship, meet someone new and potiental start a growing family with a new person . Than have another child by an ex, because their kids will have the same dad.

But everyone situation is different. I just don’t want some women to feel they have to stay in a relationship or have more kids with an ex because their kids will have the same father.