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Should I leave?

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TeaFairy86 · 27/08/2018 19:10

I am at a loss now and I really need other perspectives on this please. I am just going to get straight to the point. I have been with my partner for 3 years and we have a 13 mo son. Since i have been staying at home to take care of our son i feel like i can never do right by my partner. Apparently everything i touch turns to dust. It's silly things, i may leave his phone charger in a place where he doesn't like it or because i accidentally got a bit of food on his computer mouse when feeding oyr son(we live in the smallest flat imaginable with no dining table so i use his computer desk when feeding our son). There's been other things and i apologise but he rolls his eyes and makes comments which makes me feel like a complete idiot. I moved away from family and friends to be with him and don't have anywhere else to go or any support network around me so i feel trapped. It may be seem that i am coming across as very over sensitive but there is absolutely no appreciation for what I do for him as well as taking care of our child. It's just put downs which usually turn into arguments. I really don't know how much more I can take. He knows if i move out i I will be going back to where I come from and he makes me feel guilty for that and says he will never be able to afford to travel to see DS and says i should help with that financially. He has the money to spend £200 a month on cigarettes though... I really don't know what to do. Move my Ds away from his father because i am unhappy or keep him in an environment where i am miserable and his parents barely talk?

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crappyday2018 · 27/08/2018 19:19

I think you know the answer to that. What would you tell someone else to do.? He's not going to change if you keep sitting back and taking this treatment. If you move back home and he doesn't see his DS very often, that is HIS doing, not yours.
Children don't thrive in unhappy homes and you don;t want your DS to grow up thinking this is a normal, healthy relationship.
Get rid of him and tell him to pack in smoking and he will be able to afford the travel to see his DS.

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