My question is especially for any guys out there but if anyone else has experience of my situation is welcome it. Been with my man for 21 months and getting married next year. Very happy and enjoyable sex life up to now and solid trusting relationship. We've both been through different things in relationships, me married for 22 years and him never married but taken advantage of by many previous girlfriends emotionally and financially.
I was shocked to discover some pills a few weeks ago, kamagra, which are basically sildenafil but not licenced in this country. I'm not shocked that he has them as being in his 50's I'm well aware of what can happen to some guys, but I'm hurt that it's something he hasn't told me. I didn't think we had secrets and I truly don't know what to do. He's just recently moved in with me and obviously bought a big stash before so. I'm happy to admit that I often check to see if he's had one before we have sex and if he hasn't there's never a problem with his performance. I am finding that if he has had one I don't want to have sex because I'm so confused about why he needs them. I don't know if talking to him about it is the right thing to do. I've read a few things on here about how men feel about it and I do get it. With the menopause approaching for me in the next few years being "dry" is already worrying me but I don't feel ashamed to talk to him about it because I believe in being open about problems or they just become too big. I'm worried that I'll put a strain on our relationship because I'm so confused as to why he needs them and why its not something from his Dr but a foreign company selling unlicensed drugs, so advice please on what I should/shouldn't do.