I think I need help getting out of a relationship. I've posted before about some of the stuff he does but I've never been able to leave. I'm getting closer to it though. My biggest problem is the children, they are why I have stayed as I can't deal with the thought of him having them unsupervised for any length of time.
He can be an amazing dad, and that's all anyone on the outside sees. He can also be a complete arsehole to me and our daughters. He seems to like upsetting them then loses it with them when they react. He calls them animals and beasts, sometimes jokingly usually not. Today he told our 5 year old that her and our 2 year old could take it in turns to go in the pushchair as she was tired, then as he was in a bad mood when she asked he shouted at her for asking and said all she does is moan. We're at the mercy of his moods, when he's in a good mood he's overly silly, when he's in a bad mood no one can say anything to him.
He used to regularly throw water over our 5 year old if she was having a tantrum, then started threatening it when she wouldn't do what he said. He threatened to do it to our 2 year old a few months ago and lost it with me when I intervened.
I regularly get told how lucky I am to have him as he's such a good dad so I'm scared I won't be believed.
People on here say that I don't need to worry as he won't want to have them if I leave anyway but he really will. They're his world, he doesn't want to do anything if it takes his time away from them. It's weird but just believe me that that isn't the answer.
I spoke to someone at the Health visiting team in March and she said she would get a health visitor to call me but no one did.
Where can I go to to get help please? I cant leave knowing that he could have them for whole weekends without me there.
We're on holiday at the moment with rubbish internet so may not be able to get back on to answer replies too easily.
Thanks