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First date cancelled twice, what to do?!

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Emmap9 · 27/08/2018 10:38

So I met a guy on tinder and arranged our first date, as a single parent that’s quite a hard job in itself finding a babysitter etc but I had it all arranged. The day of the date came and got a text in the afternoon saying he was going to have to cancel as he’d hurt his back. I was gutted, he apologised. He had hurt his back the day before but then also told me that he’d been out cycling the next morning (the day of our date) and hurt it further. So I said he had one final chance to make another date. So we arranged another date for the following week. Prior to the original date he’d been texting me every (5 secs telling me how awesome I was etc etc) but then the next day I barely get a text from him other than the one to cancel the date. And after that his texts weren’t the same. But I was giving him the benefit of the doubt. So yesterday after firming up the details for our next date, I get another text saying - “you’re not going to be believe this but my friend has just said they are coming for a visit from the day we were supposed to be having our date on to two days after that, so could you possibly do the day before? Really sorry, if they had been coming for longer I would have told them I had plans.” I was like well you do have plans - to see me and as you’ve already cancelled once it doesn’t exactly show me that you value me or as much as you say you do.

Should I give him another chance to rearrange the date? My issue is that if he doesn’t really value me now will that just keep happening? He knows I’m a single parent yet thinks I can just drop everything to rearrange times or worse he’s like we can meet with your daughter and go for a meal. I’m like that’s not happening on a first date.

Should I just say forget it?

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HappyGoodHairBear · 19/11/2018 14:25

I mean a bit nope to going out with him!

HappyGoodHairBear · 19/11/2018 14:25

Big not bit. Arghh!

KeysHairbandNotepad · 19/11/2018 14:35

Pps are right , block him. He's taking the piss.

I had one like him many years ago, he cancelled on me 20 minutes before we were due to meet (said his dad had been rushed to hospital) and when we did finally meet he was late. I sat through one glass of wine , listened to his coked-up going out stories and telling me all of my opinions were wrong. Needless to say I didn't see him again. He was clearly a nightmare as he wouldn't take no for an answer and I had to block his phone number after a few days.

Find a normal one op , a person that won't mess you around.

Trinity66 · 19/11/2018 14:40

nah, the 2nd isn't even a valid reason, he basically ditched you for someone else

Trinity66 · 19/11/2018 14:53

Oh just read the update, was it the same guy? If so you should have heeded the advise given and not gone on a date with him :p

PS Don't reply to him

Emmap9 · 19/11/2018 15:34

Hi all thanks for your replies. It wasn’t the same guy I talked about originally, had thought I’d started a new thread rather than posting on this one!
I certainly seem to find the dicks! May just give up altogether!!

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StealthNinjaMum · 19/11/2018 16:38

Sorry to hear you've had such bad luck.

I wouldn't say you know he's been looking around. Instead I'd hurt his ego.

I'd say something like 'I'm not feeling it anymore, I need more of a man' or something like that. Then I'd block him.

Emmap9 · 19/11/2018 17:08

Nope different one!

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