Narcissist abuser

[Missmadge]

Hi ladies,after posting On here about my ex battering me last Saturday after almost two years of abuse I’ve been hearing the word narc quite a lot and clear stories of them being abusive and having a victim.It just confuses me as I’m a very controlling person and emotionally abusive and wondered if it’s possible two abusers can exist in a relationship or is it only ever one sided.I am not defending ex in any way,he is a thick Neanderthal who regularly thought with his fists and not just against me.What I’m asking is can two abusive people get into a relationship x

Yes cant see why not

I think you need some counselling OP.....

Oh I definitely do and have been in and out of counselling for years it’s the just this narc label I keep hearing.so are all women beaters narcs?

From reading on here I’m beginning to see my children’s father was very abusive and coercive especially with sex.Towards the end I used to feel like I was being raped,I hated him touching me because he pressured me and emotionally blackmailed me,from the start he controlled my every move even put trackers on
my phone and filmed me at home so he could check what I was doing,he never hit me so I always thought he wasn’t that bad.I obviously go for bad men.Even after leaving him 4 years ago he’s a manipulative dickhead who makes everything about him and punishes his own kids by blanking them if I dare “upset” him.He is a narc too or are these men just freaks

It's a lot easier to think about other people's issues than your own isn't it? What about your behaviour? Focus on that.

My behaviour is fine I’m asking if all abusive men are Narcissists as that’s what I keep reading.If I didn’t get with these two idiots I wouldn’t act the way I do????

I don't think it necessarily follows that all abusive people are narcissists. There are all sorts of reasons, including some mental health problems and anger management issues as well as personality disorders.

Agree with other posters though; you need to think about your own behaviour as well as other peoples'. Did you learn to be abusive from them as a defence mechanism, or were you like that before?

I think you need to see your GP and ask for counselling, as you will keep repeating these situations.