I met a lovely man 2 years ago, got on well, just started with talking about the coming election etc, just chit chat really,
I often saw him in passing walking his dog,i also have a dog, so went walking together
Several weeks later he showed more interest, and we started seeing each other daily at arranged times, never saw a woman around, and he said he was seperated,we dont live far from each other and he said he would tell me one day what went wrong with his marriage, but could i keep a secret, didnt think anything about it at the time, but then he one day said , did i think relationship between a 60 year old man and a 16 year old girl could work, ,of course i was horrified and said no, because we had been talking about age differences in couples
We are both over 60 by the way
I didnt see the red flags then i had already fallen for him,
He often told me how generous he was and people took advantage because of it
I found out it wasnt the case when Christmas came and he didnt even get me a card,so not generous at all
Another thing that was strange and i asked him if he was on a curfew or something, only joking really, he didnt answer,is i only really saw him for about an hour at a time
I know i should have seen more red flags now but didnt take everything in at the time, , then one day i saw him in his car,instead of stopping and talking to me through the window as usual,he jumped out and stood with his back against the back window,he said he was going shopping,i now think he was hiding someone,
He told me he loved the fact i was so small,
Then there were gaps of him not contacting me for a couple of weeks, at a time,now i have discovered he is not seperated but his wife was away looking after their daughter,
I know you must all think i am stupid, not seeing signs, but i had been to his house several times, and no sign of a woman
I have of course finished with him and feel sorry for his wife,but also wondering if he is also a paedophile,
I just feel used maybe to fill his perverted thought of someone or something else
Whe people meet him they see a lovely man who really bigs himself up and i feel i was groomed just like a child would be
Am i being paranoid, could he be a narccisist,got very angry when i accused him of lying ,says he never does
When i found out about his wife he said he didnt care about her, and its her own fault he was having an affair as she was too controlling and he had no sex life for years
So sorry its so long, lots of other things too really,
We started a realationship, he was full of compliments