Husband doesn't want to be near me

[Bearlyslept]

Sorry new to this sorry if I get the abbreviations wrong. Married for 7 years, caring lovely man who is a good dad.. we have a 4yo together.... he's had diabetes for a while but is ignoring it and not taking treatment. He's become irritable, unreasonable and now moved out. He hasn't wanted any physical closeness for a long time, things have been pretty tough... anyone else in the same/ similar situation have any advice? TIA

Ex H was like this but older . Uncontrolled diabetes is one of THE worst things for mood. In the end it contributed vastly to the end of our marriage . All you can do is try to get him to see a doctor and to get started on treatment . Best of luck . Sorry that's probably not much help .

Diabetics can be incredibly difficult to deal with when they don't have it under control. It may also be causing ED which might be why he's avoiding sex?

You can't make him take treatment tho. Sorry. Hopefully he'll see sense.

I've obviously read up on it and totally understand that.... have tried to talk to him, then tried to talk to him at his pace, (which was never) and then he just left. I have my own issues but take medication for it always. Just so gutted

Has he just been diagnosed with it? I'm sorry he has treated you like this. So many threads lately of people breaking up

He's had it for 2 years and totally ignored it. Obviously I tried to support him with taking medication but he refused to take anything or even go to the GP for support.

I'm not sure if its the diabetes that's the issue here OP. If anything, it looks like the issue is one of relationship breakdown. You say he's a lovely man....but how can he be if he's left you with a four year old and moved out?
Additionally, he's responsible for himself. If he's not taking his medication and as a consequence, becoming irritable and moody then that's his choice and you can't take responsibility for him. He has free will. As do you.

So sorry Bearly - what is it with these men who won’t seek help.
I can’t understand this myself.
Yes he’s an adult - he’s made a choice to go - where has he gone to?
I’m assuming there’s no other woman?
I would reduce contact - planned access to his daughter away from the house - don’t let him pop over when he feels like,
What about finances?
Is he able to hold down a job and is he this irritable and moody with anyone else?
I’d ask him for a divorce?
If he’s refused medical intervention would he go to counselling?
I hope you have real life support.
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