Please be gentle. I need some perspective.
I had my first baby a year ago. It was traumatic and we both almost died. I have struggled a lot with coming to terms with what has happened, I'm almost certain I had ptsd. Then my landlady sold up and I had no choice but to move. I live 30 mins drive from my family.
I begged my mum and my sister to visit me for a cup of tea occasionally. I visited them a couple times but I don't drive, it's 2 trains and about 4 hours in total to get to them, -all with newborn baby in tow. They have never visited and soon I was forgotten. It hurt massively, but I focused on making myself better and I finally feel like I'm ok now.
Me and my partner have decided to get married, I called the registry office and booked the soonest date, we can only have 2 witnesses. I text my mum to explain I was getting married and I want her to be a witness. She replied she will be on holiday that day and she was gutted. I didn't know this because we haven't spoken in a year.
I then get a torrent of abuse in the form of text message from my sister, along the lines of "how could you do this to her, you are a self pitying bitch, we have always been here for you... etc".
I am beyond upset, when I was asking for their help they told me I needed to sort myself out and they don't have time. I did what they asked and left them alone.
The next message I get is from my mum. "You think your mrs perfect now don't you? I'm absolutely heart broken that you have done this."
I didn't do this on purpose but they won't listen to me.
I don't know why I'm posting. Am I in the wrong? I don't even know what to say. I had to block my sister because she is deluded and I didn't trust myself to rise above it.
Would you change the day of your wedding so your mother who you have not seen in almost a year could come? I just want to marry the man who kept me afloat this past year. I didn't mean to hurt her feelings. They have told the extended family that I've done this on purpose and everyone thinks I'm a bitch.