Hi
So you may have seen a few of my previous posts. I have moved away from abusive ex and he is gone for good forever.
Anyway my worry now is how to move on? I don’t mean in the feelings sense I mean in the physical.
Like getting used to another man, being naked in front of another man with all my wobbly bits.
Also the fact that now I have a child and at an older stage in life so the dating structure for me will have changed as in not child free teenager with no baggage.
Just having a normal relationship. I know it happens over time and at one stage my ex was a new partner that I got used to but I’m just quite scared.
Although my spilt is sort of recent (ish) in my mind we have been over for years so it’s quite exciting to move on but oh so scary.
What if I can never let my guard down or trust again? And they say there are traits in abusive men, what if I see EVERYTHING as a red flag because there was ALWAYS a problem in my relationship. Also do all abusive men sit and talk??!! For them to all have the same traits.
I am going through counselling and have been in a refuge so am familiar with programmes similar to the freedom programme, all I really want advice on is the actual moving on process and getting comfortable enough with someone else again.
Sorry if my post sounds all over the place, I just have so much in my head I don’t really know where to start.
It’s a mixture of excitement and nervousness. Thanks in advance!