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Want to leave my husband

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cherrypiesareyum · 26/08/2018 10:39

I really want to leave my husband but am struggling to see how I can. Been a SAHM for 5 years and DS due to start school soon. I feel very very lonely, have no close friends or family and have a really rubbish relationship with husband. He doesn't want to split and would seemingly carry on in this miserable state for ever. My life has changed dramatically since having DS. I love him so much but since I left work and had DS all my so called friends vanished. I've struggled to make new friends due to depression and some trust issues relating to abusive family and a number of betrayals by those that were close. I'm actually considered I think as quite a strong independent person and I haven't told anyone how bad I've felt and how crap my life has been over the past 5 years. I try so hard to get along with "D" H but feel like he throws a spanner in the work with passive aggressive comments, usually resulting in me getting upset or annoyed and shouting at him and then me being blamed for reacting to his "innocent" comments. Sorry for such a long post, I didn't intend it to be. I really just want to know how I can leave my husband when I've got no money and no support.

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Daddyto2monsters · 26/08/2018 11:09

To stay would be unfair to you, your child and your husband. I would be heartbroken if my wife wanted to leave me but didn't due to financial reasons.

Have you told him what you are thinking ? I have always had the opinion that life is to short to be unhappy in a relationship and that staying in one that is not working is wasting both yours and your partners time.

NC4Now · 26/08/2018 11:13

If you’re serious, you need to look at how you would support yourself. Do you plan to go back to work?
You’ll likely be eligible for some tax credits. When I first went back to work after DS it was doable part time. DH will have to pay you maintenance- CMS says 15% of his take-home after tax, NI and pension.
It might be worth speaking to the CAB to see what your options are.

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