Ask him to move out

[rabbitrabbit12]

I don't want to be with him anymore, it's my house, what do u say? I feel bad but I want to live on my own..

That’s reason enough

Are you married? Are you renting or do you own your house? If the latter, whose name is on the deeds?

"I don't want to be with you any more"

Not married, my house, mortgaged my name on the deeds.

Be honest and reasonable. Don’t expect him to be able to move out immediately- he’ll possibly have to save for a deposit/months rent in advance if he plans to rent. He may prefer to move in with family meantime but at least have a discussion and give him a degree of flexibility.

Does he have the money to put a deposit on a flat? If he does, it's really easy. If he doesn't, does he have a credit card? If so, easy again.

Has he been living cheaply while he was with you? Were you charging him rent?

Depends how the relationship has been.

Cordial, with reasonable financial sharing. Just has come to it’s natural end - how about a fixed deadline, giving time to save for a rent deposit.

Cocklodger - get rid ASAP.

Cheater - ASAP.

Been together 3 yrs lived together for 2. He's just got his divorce money which has dominated our relationship for various reasons. No cheating etc. I just want to do my own thing, not be dominated by him and his choices now he's got his money. He paid half towards bills, even though he earned substantially more than me. Seen a different side recently...

Tell him now whilst he can’t come up with the excuse he’s got nowhere to go.

Get rid

He's got money? Brilliant.

Does he have friends or family he could go to now?

No friends or family, it would be a painfully slow process..

No, it doesn't have to be a painfully slow process. I reckon I could go to an estate agent's on Monday morning and be able to move in somewhere by Tuesday or Wednesday.

Do you have trouble standing up to him, given his dominating nature?

It's your home, you are not married.
You can get him out very quickly as he has the financial means to find himself somewhere else to live.
Tell him you want him out by the end of the weekend(seeing as he wants to spend his money how he wants) and that he takes everything with him. Do it calmly.
He can go and stay in a hotel.
Change the locks as soon as he has left. (You can watch you tube videos on how to do this yourself).
Good Luck OP.

You can send him away immediately. He has no legal right to stay. Up to you how quickly you make him leave.

You would be surprised how quickly he found permanent accommodation after he checks into a hotel.

Don't ask him - tell him.
Tell him he has to go by the end of the month.

"XXX, lately I've come to the realization that this relationship just isn't working for me anymore and I'm ending it. I'm sorry and I don't mean to hurt you. My mind is made up so please respect my decision and accept that I know what is right for me so don't let's argue or drag things out. I will need you to move out within . I know this will not present a problem as you've just received your settlement."

If you decide to give him more than 24 hours to vacate add:

"In the meantime, I have to ask that you sleep in the spare room/on the couch as we are no longer a couple."

That should do it.