Okay, so a long story but I don't really know what to do. I've been with my partner since I was 18 (nearly four years). He used to work at his own business six days a week and didn't always bother coming home at night. I lived with his daughter (she is an adult) who was horrid, aggressive and made my life hell. I got a little house of my own, my partner had a breakdown and quit his business and now works as a courier driver. We have three sons together (2,1 and 6 months) and we have recently discovered that our one year old has cerebral palsy. I am not the tidiest of people I'll admit that now, and since having three small children and PPD, it's gotten worse, I admit that, also I go to my mum's house a lot for support and adult company. According to my partner this makes me a useless c*, worthless and stupid. I understand he works long hours but he does nothing to help with the house, he will watch the boys a bit but doesn't do anything with them, he resents me taking them out and about (we are very active as it keeps me sane) and he never has a nice word to say about me. I guess I'm just asking if other mums in similar positions manage to have clean and tidy houses and I really am just a useless lazy idiot, or if he is being harsh? Also, please note he doesn't give me any money at all, so I'm not living off him in anyway.