Are all 'young men' these days just pricks???

[kittylette]

Both my sisters boyfriends treat them like shit.

My first sisters boyfriend has practically abondoned her and her 4 week old

And now my other sisters boyfriend has been on MSN telling some girl shes 'sexy' ect, and she asked to meet him and he said 'he would but hes got no momey at the moment but he will email her if he gets any!!'

My sis has been throwing up shes so upset!

I feel like belting him one!

Shes been through so much lately and I really though he was there for her

Are young women these days putting up with young men behaving like pricks? They should both show them the door and hold out for something better.

Strangely makes me realise how lucky I a too.

I cant believe hes done this to her, he knows how bad things are for her at the moment!!

Yes but its easier said then done.

Easier when your 30+ and have life and experience behind you, Easier when you know you can stand on your own two feet

Not so easy when your young and scared

depends how young you are talking about

sister with baby is 18

other sis with msn-prick boyf is 16

FWIW i think msn-prick boyfriend is gone for good now, or i hope so.

Not so much young men as teenagers then...teenage boys can tend towards arseness tbh..not all though.

Ive been with my partner since we were 15 and hes never even looked at someone else, so Ive never experienced anything like this

I feel so sorry for them

Agree, I started going out with DH when he was 16 and he was not an arse at all - hence why he is now DH.

That said, several of his peers (not his friends) were arses.

One of my good friends is 21 - he can be immature at times when it comes to women but never deliberately sets out to hurt them.

I think young women nowadays generally seem prepared to settle for very little when it comes to a man, and do not have a great deal of self-worth.

Lets face it, if you don't expect much, you wont get much.

A friend of mine, from Spain, (male) says Spanish women expect to be wined and dined, romanced, and treated well before they will even consider a relationship with a man. They wont enter into anything serious unless the man has prospects and is prepared for committment. In his opinion British women don't seem at all fussed about any of these things which is why they often end up let down. True, perhaps???

nooo fio!!

i didnt mean you were 30+

i meant generally when you are older its easier to see past being with someone and see that being alone is sometimes better

i did not mean you specifically!!

I agree tinymum

The young men I know all seem to be rather lovely.
It's some of the young women that behave in ways that me.

brothelsprouts,

my 1st sisters boyf seemed lovely until she got pregnant,

and so did the 2nd boyfriend, i never thought he would hurt her, i thought he was lovely .. obviously not though!

Judging by my two DCs & their friends I'd say it's six of one & half a dozen of the other - there are just as many young girls behaving badly to their boyfriends - it's just that when they do, the consequences to the 'injured party' aren't likely to be so disastrous.

Has anything really changed though. Our Grandparents can certainly say yes, but can we?

I agree im 25 and my dp is 42 as i just found men my own age pathetic its all bloody xbox and playstations and lag mags! Bring back national service and toughen them up a bit!!

Some of them are lovely and help out with Beavers/Cubs, etc.

Well there are enough threads on here about older men behaving like pricks, from constantly belittling their partners to ripping them off, and outbreaks of appalling violence... So I don't think it's just age.
Also, some younger men have been brought up by feminist mothers to treat women with respect (ok so some of these will go through a horrendous sexist-pig stage in adolescence but then grow out of it...)

And as to that example of "spanish women" FFS! If you treat access to your fanjo as some sort of currency that you'll only trade for X number of romantic dinners and Y number of declarations of lurrve, then you're always going to be let down and f*cked over. Have sex when you want to and if you don't want to get PG use contraception!

while sometimes I can vehemently disagree with Madamz, not this time - I think she has it spot on.

I think it's less to do with age than how they've been brought up to think of other people and the values they place on relationships with other people.

Though, yes - thos boys do sound like complete a*ses and your sisters are well rid!

Your sisters are better off without these particular specimens, but no not all young men are like this.

Can think of one particular young man I know, 19, who has been with his partner for about a year now, and is very kind and generous with her. She has quite low self-esteem and he has just been fantastic with her, so there are some great young men out there.

they're not all bad
my bro is 16 and an absolute angel, he babysits for me regularly, cycles with a trailer to take ds1 to nursery, came home from college to help me cos i was in tears on the phone

i really would be lost without him

so there are some diamonds to be found in the rough