Genuine question

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Why are so many women prepared to settle for lazy/useless/ cruel/lying/disrespectful - any or all of the above - men? Why do they set their standards so low? Am not trying to be confrontational, seriously am mystified at the prospect of living what must surely be an unhappy life

I think the question should be why are men lazy/useless/ cruel/lying/disrespectful rather than shifting the blame to women again.

It's not shifting the blame to women...it's asking why they tolerate such behaviour.

You could try and analyse other people's behaviour till the cows come home...but really the 'why' doesn't matter.

What matters is that their behaviour is negatively affecting you.... (and your DC) and only you can change that....because these men are quite happy to carry on abusing, cheating and being lazy. A person who exhibits such behaviour is unlikely to want to change...because it suits them just fine.

If women could be eeducated from a young age on how to recognise the early signs of abusive and manipulative men ...it would really go a long way.

I talk to my teenage DDs about it, because I've seen how controlled some women are and I don't want that for them.

@pallisers Great post, but I think you answered your own question. The shit men are basing their behaviour on the expectations they internalised from their own shit parents.