Taking a break from DH at my dad's but what's my excuse?

[gummychops]

So, to cut a long story short, things have come to a head with DH after months/years of arguing & it's make or break. I'm going to visit my dad for weekend with the two kids ( two & a half & 5 months). I've decided not to come back home on Sun eve, & to tell my husband I need a break, in the hope that he'll come to his senses in our absence....

I don't want my dad to become involved in the sorry state of my crappy marriage. I'd rather not tell him the truth, and come up with an excuse as to why I'm not returning to marital home for a week ir two... Something like "next door are having building work done & baby can't sleep" or "gas leak on the street" or ??? Any other ideas please, as my dad isn't daft..... Thanks.

Just be honest with your DF. He's not an idiot and will have his suspicious anyway no doubt.

DH working Mon-Fri. I'm on maternity leave. It's still going to be very obvious & unusual if I stay home with the 2 kids (in the countryside) at my dad's & leave husband on his own (in the city, 2 hours away)

Why would it be unusual? Your husband is working, your dad is 76, you want to spend time with him and you can because you’re on maternity leave, he lives in the countryside so it’s a great change from the city for the children...

You’re just going on holiday for a week or so to visit your dad in the country while you can. Might be your last chance. You’re overthinking because youre hiding something but believe me no reason needed other than you’re on leave and you’re dad is 76.

I went to stay with my sister at Easter without DH. He couldn’t go, he was working. Simple.

Sorry, 73. Still in his 70s though. No reason needed to go and visit for an extended time.

I’d just say dh is working late this week for quite a few nights so I’d appreciate some downtime and company at dads for a few days as I’m there already, rather than be on my own at home.

I second what marants said. Hope it all works out for you Ps, I totally understand why you don't want to tell your dad.

It doesn’t sound unusual at all. Just ask if you can stay for a holiday for a week as you fancy some country air and DH is working.

Thanks everyone for the replies. Ok, I'll say DH has lots of work on this week. I think that should work, & hopefully not arouse any suspicion with my dad. Thanks.

I often go to my parents' house with the kids if DH is working a lot. It's nice for the kids and my parents to see more of each other, and it keeps me sane. Also means DH can come home from a long work day and relax, rather than having the kids running round him. I think it's a perfectly reasonable thing to do. The only thing is, will your dad wonder why you've arrived with stuff for a week when you were only meant to be staying for the weekend? Probably best to mention it in advance!