I Feel Horrible and Don't know if Im being silly

[Gypsyboy]

I know a man through mutual friends and we see each other weekly due to a mutual interest. There's a mutual attraction but he's taken with 1 DC so nothing will ever come of it

I feel too rubbish to try and explain this to anyone in person and no one knows about the attraction. Today at the group I met his child...we've never talked about him before and I'm not sure if he knew I knew he had one. Anyway...today unexpectedly, I met his child. There felt an... awkwardness as he introduced me and his son shied away. I hope I'm just being ridiculous as nothing will happen, but why do I feel so arghhhh around his DC???? I was perfectly nice and the child was sweet and I spoke to him etc but I just feel awful

You would be very surprised what a child can pick up on

They are only 2, nearly 3 I think

If we aren't planning on doing anything about it, I don't know why I feel like this

At that age he's probably shy around strangers.

You probably had your feelings out if guilt that you're attracted to his dad and now see there's a real little human being that could be affected if anything happened between you.

Probably could see the weird ‘gagging for it’ expression on your face...

Kids pick up a lot

Oh totally. I don't think the shying away was down to the attraction between me and his dad

I just don't understand why it felt so weird. There was a mutual tension, not bad, but definitely present

Probably could see the weird ‘gagging for it’ expression on your face...

Er, what

I expect your guilt is making you feel tension etc. You feel icky because even acknowledging a 'mutual attraction' when he's taken is icky.

Seeing as he is 'taken' with a DC I'm not really sure why you have posted this in relationships. As you are not in a relationship with him.

How did you know he was unavailable and had a child before he even told you?

No, I'm not in a relationmship with him but neither are the brother/sister/friend threads...this is about 'a relationship' and isn't appropriote anywhere else

I knew because others told me/he'd speak about them to others, it's just never been brought up with me

MyKingdom...I really didn't think it was guilt...as I'm not planning on ever acting on it, there was nothing to feel guilt for but maybe there is :s

@Gypsyboy

Huh?

Brother sister friends threads? Please clarify as not sure if it's just me but I'm really confused?

If you have a brother or a sister then to an OP then they are a relation to the.

Them*

As in, this is Relationships...people post threads about siblings, friends etc. It's not just people in romantic relationships with whoever they are posting about

Oh dear God, whatever. I'm not arguing the toss over that as that's completely irrelevant to the point of my post

I get that. I just don't understand what you're asking to be honest?

Little ones are often shy with strangers so I wouldn’t give that any thought. You and the man felt awkward because the boy’s presence was like a bucket of cold reality over your rosy little ‘shared interest’.
It’s that simple.

Stop mooning over a man who already has a wife and child.

I understand what you mean - it's in relationships because it's to do with an interaction or relationship with another human being. Can also see why others think it's not the place. Doesn't really matter though.

I would get the child being odd was nothing to do with anything, but you are so sensitive to the situation and reading into every little thing that you are ascribing meaning where there is none.

This does not sound like a good man though, please forget about him and the mutual attraction.