I’ve has the worst year for lots of reasons but my love life has been nothing but a disaster. After my long term engagement broke down I stupidly joined tinder. In December I started dating a professional athlete. He seemed like the perfect gentleman, despite his baggage (emotional issues, apparent crazy ex girlfriend issues).
We broke up 4 months later because his issues were too much (for him, I stood by him). We decided to go on our boomed holiday together and on our return we tried again, at his suggestion. I was love bombed for a further three weeks then he went on a lads holiday. Returned and stonewalled me because his personal issues and once again reared their head.
All this time later I’ve found out he met someone on said holiday. I’ve called him out on it and apparently I’m crazy as we weren’t even together when he went. Despite me having messages from him on his first few days there, telling me how much he wished I was there, couldn’t wait to get back to me etc.
I’m now starting to think he’s the crazy one and these poor girls he told me about (one we even went to the police about) are the victims.
I think he might be a narcissist..... how do you spot these guys and stay away from them? Furthermore how do I not attract them in the first place. He was charming, treated me amazingly (when he wasn’t ignoring me) he was beautiful!!!
Aghhhhh beginning to think I should just give up men once and for all x