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Help!! Don't know where else to turn

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ZoeSusan · 23/08/2018 22:34

Hi Everyone ^
This may be about of a long post!
Me and my ex partner split up a few months ago- we have 2 beautiful children together. Unfortunately I feel the breakdown of my relationship with his family contributed to us splitting up- his mum became very bitter at the fact I'd spend more time with my mum than I did with her, which is ridiculous. I was then getting terrible Facebook posts about me, and nasty messages each weekend after she'd had a drink.
Anyway, me and my ex are very up and down- I have tried and tried to keep things civil for the children but he just can't seem to do it. I've warned him time and time again that this is his final chance and he keeps guilt tripping me into 'another chance'.
Today was the final straw when he called me a ''fat dumb c**t'' in front of my children, who are only 1 and 3. I instantly said 'look at how you're talking to me in front of your children' and he said ''it's true. Your mum is fat'
This bad mood triggered for almost no reason, and scared my boy to the point of tears.
He has said he wants to take the children out tomorrow but my son really doesn't want to go, but I know that if I tell him my son doesn't want to go he will just make my life hell and say I'm stopping him from seeing the children (which isn't true).
I've spoken to my cousin who is studying psychology and she said he's showing signs of narcissistic behaviour, which I agree with.
How can I persuade him to get help? I can't go on like this
Tia^ 

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DeadDoorpost · 23/08/2018 22:39

No advice, sorry, but as someone with an mother who emotionally blackmails, I'd be as vigilant as possible about keeping your children safe. If that means keeping them home because they don't want to go then so be it. Would your son admit it to his dad? Sometimes hearing it from the child helps the parent accept it more.

I hope things don't get bad for you

ZoeSusan · 23/08/2018 22:42

Hi :)
My son is only 3 so wouldn't say it I don't think. I said to him in conversation 'would you like to go with daddy tomorrow and have some fun?' And he said 'NO MUMMY NO' ... he scared my son to the point of tears. Unfortunately he's only ruining things for himself

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DeadDoorpost · 23/08/2018 22:46

It is hard, especially at that age. If he comes over, could you not ask your son again the same question and see how he replies? That way you get an answer, and give him the choice of what he wants to do.

ZoeSusan · 23/08/2018 22:48

Good idea thank you. I feel like after tonight's rant he won't even attempt to take the children tomorrow anyway. Maybe better if we stay away from each other for a while x

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NotTakenUsername · 23/08/2018 22:49

Could you video you son’s response to offering him a day out with his father?

ZoeSusan · 23/08/2018 22:53

I'm hoping he forgets what has happened, and maybe feel comfortable with going out with him x

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