Not sure if IABU or not so seeking out advice...
Been seeing a guy for 4 months. He's in the Army, due to go away in Jan. He's never been married, no kids. I have a DD 8 and a DS 10, not met yet. Not met families yet due to distance but met all his friends and one of his sisters plus he's put a few photos of us of social networks. Definitely exclusive but not mention of this on social networks, just the photos.
All good when we're together, usually EOW and a day or two during the week. He's not emotional or romantic, said he loves me when pissed once, I said it a couple of weeks ago and he just said me too.
When we're apart he texts about twice a day, and I feel that's only in response to me texting. I accept he doesn't like to communicate that way and we've never done the good morning/good night text. We don't talk about the future other than vague 'at Christmas we'll do xyz' or 'next year we'll do xyz'.
I'm just frustrated that I need to lower my expectations to meet his - few texts, no romance etc and he makes no effort in reverse. He said he's not used to having a girlfriend and doesn't always know what to say or do. He says to tell him when he's being a twat but when I try to bring it up he just brushes over my feelings.
So my AIBU is should I put up and shut up because he's great in all ways apart from the communication, or should I call it a day because he's not prepared to compromise on something that's important to me? I don't want much, just an indication that he cares. I've been on OLD for 2.5 years and have met some right fuckwits, so I do know a good 'un when I see it and don't want to cut my nose off.
TIA.