Hi everyone, I thought I'd post on here because it seems like a really supportive community and I wasn't sure where to turn.
My wife and I have been married for a year and we're quite young. We were in love from the moment we met and I moved in virtually straight away. After a few months of our relationship I found that she had been messaging former lovers - not ex's especially just people from her past. We talked it through and it made us a stronger couple in both our eyes. The paranoia came back every so often and I checked her phone a few times. She found out and understand, I didn't find anything anyway.
In May of this year I noticed that her behaviour had changed, she was working hard and I put it down to stress. She had a night out with her friends and I checked her laptop. I found nude photos of herself, other men and found evidence that she had been messaging other men for a few months. We talked it through when she got home the morning after and she said that she felt loved by me but this was a kind of release I guess? She does have a fetish for older men with beards (not me unfortunately!). She claims to have never met any of the men that she was messaging but I have strong doubts. She has some of the men in question on social media - instagram mainly. Three months on and things are getting better but I'm not sure if I have the full picture yet.
I'm a bit of a loss really.
A. I want to believe that she didn't meet any of these men but I can't get much more out of her.
B. I'm not sure if she's stopped and how I confront her about it.
C. I still feel very paranoid about what has happened.
I don't want to leave her because I still feel like there is more to be revealed but I'm not sure if I'm just being paranoid.
Happy to provide more details and happy to clarify but I thought was a good start! Any help will be much appreciated.
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