Where do I start with counselling?

[crappyday2018]

Following my recent thread about coming out of a relationship with an alcoholic, I really feel like i need to work on myself. I know I put being in a relationship before my own happiness and have always put up with bad things, just because I wanted to stay in one.
I;ve done this all my life. I feel I might benefit from some sort of counselling because I really want to change my outlook on life and genuinely see myself more important than I have been doing.
Where do I start? No idea where to look for someone or what sort of counselor I need - any advice?

I went on the BACP website and looked in my area.

The lady I am working with just looked "right" in the picture of her. She had a kind comforting feel about her which sounds silly, but that's the only way I can explain it. (and she's bloody marvellous too!)

You may also be able to find recommendations on a local facebook page if you are ok with asking - or sometimes admins will post a anonymous request on your behalf too.

It is ok to try them and change if they don't suit you.

Counsellor here

Start here: www.counselling-directory.org.uk

Type in your location and it will bring up a list of all the qualified counsellors in your area. You have to meet the criteria to list on that website so you can be confident that whoever you choose is fully trained. Most of them will say MBACP (member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy), more senior members (so those with more experience) will say they are Accredited members of the BACP.

Have a look through and find one who stands out to you. I'm back in therapy at the moment as going to Uni in September so have to do 40 hours, I chose mine by her photo and the wording she'd used in her advert - she seemed warm and compassionate and that was what I needed. Don't be flummoxed by all the jargon, just go with who calls to you

Thanks both. I've just realised I may be able to get some counselling sessions through my private healthcare scheme at work so will try that avenue first. Its very expensive.

You can also have a look into the Freedom Programme, woman's aid. There should be one in your area. Personally it wasn't suited to me, but may help with your boundaries in future relationships.

The above service also offers 1:1 sessions.

Counselling through your work sounds like a good idea. I think Relate also offer individual counselling.

Good luck. X

Good luck

It is expensive on a per session bare numbers basis, but try and think of it as an investment (hopefully your work can help with the cost too).

I have had my eyes opened to some very uncomfortable home truths, but my counsellor has made me so much more able to understand and cope with myself and I often come away feeling quite astounded and positive at the insights I have learned.

Sorry put on wrong place and don't know how to delete lol sorry!!!!

We have an employee assistance program at work so I rang them today and I'm entitled to free face-to-face counselling (up to 6 sessions).
This saves going through private health where I have an excess to pay.
Just waiting on a list of therapists to be sent and I can make an appointment.