I need some advice, I'm not sure if I'm just not seeing whats right in front of me. ok, here goes.
I'm a married man, two wonderful grown up kids, working away from home for sometimes a couple of months at a time. I have an older brother and a wife I adore.
I send flowers on her birthday, anniversary etc and we pretty much have a happy relationship.
Except for a few things I just can't get out of my head.
Many years ago I worked the social clubs helping out local bands, my brother would come along and help out too, He'd sit at the back of the room and run the sound system, I would run the lights. It was a good night out and all the girlfriends and wives would tag along.
My job however required me to sit stage side whilst my girlfriend (now wife) would sit behind the mixing desk amongst the wives and my brother. Many years go by and my wife lets slip that one night whilst they were sat there my brother took my girlfriends hand and placed it on his groin.
They play it off as a big joke but it bothers me, a lot. Why was my brother holding her hand? Why did it take so long to tell me? How can placing your own brothers girlfriends hand on your groin be a joke?
It still comes up in conversation some times and they all laugh it off but it just gets to me every time.
When my father passed away a few years later we were all sat outside coming to terms with his passing. My wife and brothers wife turned up and my wife ran to my brother and hugged him. She left me sat there, alone. After she had consoled my brother she came over to me.
Am I being too sensitive about this?
Am I seeing things that aren't really there?
Thanks for listening.