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Can I go on date with this guy

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newlounge · 22/08/2018 21:33

So you had a brief flight no with this guy, was total sexual chemistry and I really fancied him but it was just a fling I knew that and he has massive issue and is everything that don’t need in a man. Over the few months I was sleeping with him I met his mate. This mate is very different to the fling guy and if anything actually treated me better he was the one walking me home when it was dark and the one moving me out of harms way when a fight broke out in a pub we were in etc.

So me and fling guy fizzled our few months ago, no big deal it was what it was but last few days this mate has been chatting to me slot over social media and I think that he may soon ask me out.

Firstly would it be weird of me to consider a date with him because of fling guy (I don’t think he would care to be honest, since found out he was seeing others while seeing me)

And also while I like this guy and can see lots of good qualities that I’m looking for I can’t say definitely if I’m attracted to him and at present not sure I would want to have sex with him, is this something that could grow

In the past I usually go for the sexual chemistry guy and it sweats ends badly rather than the good guy

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Notreadyforkidstogrowupyet · 22/08/2018 21:36

Hi I'd go for it if he asks you .it's great you get on and he clearly has the caring side I wouldn't worry bout sexual chemistry as sometimes it gets in the way lol.just go with it and enjoy it .hope it works out for you

newlounge · 22/08/2018 21:42

I def have a type and they are always bad boys and that's were the sexual chemistry but it never ends well

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Notreadyforkidstogrowupyet · 22/08/2018 21:55

Sometimes the good guy is the one you need ,they more loyal and loving and can just be as adventurous as a bad boy .long time ago I had a l8vely boyf he was kind and sweet and what did I do I dumped him because I felt I didn't deserve a good guy. You don't say how old you are but please don't make the same mistake I did .though it was years ago and I have a new partner this old boyf bumps into me on purpose but each time I see him I Still kick myself lol.

Singlenotsingle · 22/08/2018 22:04

You don't know him well enough yet. If he suggests a date, go along and see what happens...

newlounge · 22/08/2018 22:09

I'm 38 and a single parent he's 44 and no children

In past before I met the bad boy fling I noticed this guy and thought he was nice looking in a way just not my usual type then next time I saw him he was with bad boy and guess because he's a little more quiet and the bad boy was doing all the flirting he was overlooked

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Notreadyforkidstogrowupyet · 22/08/2018 22:16

Same as me and I'm a sp too.id go on a date and get to know him .lol the nicer ones do get overlooked

BeenthereandhavetheTshirt · 22/08/2018 23:35

sometimes these nice boys in ordinary life turn into a bad boy in the bedroom and you get the best of both worlds :-P

Notreadyforkidstogrowupyet · 23/08/2018 07:10

Hee hee I agree Wink

newlounge · 23/08/2018 08:30

Well that would be perfect

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