Am I controlling?

[Bettyboop43]

Not been on MN long but am long time reader. Wanted advice as I think I'm being unreasonable as does DH but I still think boundaries are crossed. DH manges several care homes, has assistant manager and several seniors. He does rotas. I kicked off after two years of him on whatsapp messenger and staff ringing our home re work issues (Sunday morning!!!)) he's started leaving his phone when at home now, apart from when on call and it had settled down. What I don't like is that he has a lot of women work for him, who message him on whatsapp re rota etc ("but their Prof pucs are always seductive) and he replies, always politely but must spend about 2 hours from every messaging staff. I don't see why he needs to do this when he has seniors and assistant manager... He says cause he does the rota he has to communicate this way. I'm sick of seeing young posing women texting him saying how great he is he's changed their shift etc blah blah. He's a great husband and father he would never cheat and he leaves his phones lying around while he's out for hours. Aibu to think there's protocol and all these women shouldn't be messaging him. Sometimes every fucking day

It’d piss poor management that these are routine issues can’t be done in normal office hours.

My DH is at European management level in a multi billion company and even he manages to have an automatic out of hours message cut in on his phone and ignore texts and answer phone until next day unless he knows there’s a problem he’s expecting calls about.

However, your jealousy is an issue you need to look at.

Thinking of a username. Thank you, yes when it encroaches on family time it can cause problems. People have no boundaries it seems anymore. X

I'm in shock right now - what a little treasure you are. I work full time too, why assume he's keeping me in a nice life? If anyone needs to work on anything here it's you.