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I don't know if it's just me

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Ellie1912 · 21/08/2018 20:58

When me and my partner found out we was expecting we was both over the moon everything seemed great... a couple of months later everything seemed to go down hill I lost my job and he left his due to rumours of him having an affair (didn't help we both worked at the same place ) after that they're was silly little secrets that I found out about and confronted him about since then he has tried to make a mends and has changed a lot but I can't seem to get it all out my head and I don't know why ... I don't believe he cheated but then it's still in the back of my mind all the time ... I don't think it helps that I feel really self conscious at the moment and don't feel attractive or anything no matter how much I try to has anyone else been through this I just feel as I'm looking for problems where there isn't any all the time

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babycow38 · 21/08/2018 22:09

Bump x

Winegal · 21/08/2018 22:38

Don't really have any advice but Thanks

Putitallbehindme · 21/08/2018 22:54

I really feel for you, I can hear how unsettled you are.

I’m a little confused when you mentioned the ‘silly little secrets’

Have you sat down and talked through your concerns with your partner properly?

You clearly believe he has needed to make amends but also say you don’t think he’s cheated.

I think you are not trusting of him and this is why you are unsettled.

X

Ellie1912 · 21/08/2018 23:43

When I said silly little secrets it was just things that there was no need to hide but he did and yeh we've spoke about things and seem to be getting somewhere, some days seem great and then the next I'm just really down and start over thinking about things ... it's weird because I do trust him but I'm very cautious about everyone and everything all the time I don't know if it's because of being hurt in the past or just the fact I've always been scared of being hurt and not trust people fully

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Ellie1912 · 21/08/2018 23:45

And I think we both needed to make amends neither of us was thinking of the other person and wasn't paying attention to them ,... we had both kinda got lost in day to day life and had changed towards each other he has become so much more caring and thoughtful it's like we both go caught in a rut

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