Name changed just in case.
I'm very low contact with step parents. Both my bio parents died when I was very young. Its complicated.
As a young, orphaned child I was subjected to emotional abuse and neglect with no one to turn to. I have recently accepted this was the case.
I have gone very low contact with them after the birth of my son as I did not want them to treat him like they treated me. I answer the phone to them and am pleasant but cold. But every time they contact me my heart sinks and it takes a lot to be civil.
I am definitely in the FOG stage but want to escape. They act as though they are the perfect parents and grandparents to everyone, but behind closed doors, they treat me horribly.
Stepmother spreads gossip and lies about me. They live about 4 hrs away but visited the village I live in without telling me or arranging to pop in. They told me they were going to give me an early inheritance to help with a house deposit, to the point where they told me the cheque was in the post. Then told me they never said this and they had no money.
They slag off my (dead) birth mother and treat younger stepsiblings like golden children.
I've drafted a message with the intention of saying exactly what I think of them and then immediately blocking all forms of contact. But I'm worried it's not the right thing to do.