Friends? What friends?

[hanz5489]

Hi all... not sure if I am writing this in the right place but...

I'm wondering if anyone else has had a problem with keeping friends after having a child? Since having my daughter, (4 1/2 years ago) I seemed to have lost all my friends!
I was the first to have a baby.

I am always the one who tries to txt/message/call the other person first but I either get ghosted or plans get cancelled last minute (by them).
I'm always there for them when they need me but they never seem to be there when I need them!

Am I doing something wrong?
Am I just not really a nice person? I feel like everyone is just talking about me behind my back!

Can someone let me know if they feel the same? Or felt the same at some point and what you did?

Thanks xxx

It doesn't have anything to do with you being a nice person or not, rather people are busy and you're now in a new context and perhaps don't share the same interest as your (childess?) friends. Is there anyone among them who also has small children, and with whom you get along well? Try to keep in touch with that person/persons, it'll be easier since you share a bit of the same circumstances (having small children). Also try to find new mum friends close to where you live. Is there any difference if you try to plan more spontaneous meetings, so there isn't really any time to cancel or drop out? Or are they super busy and are saying no to everything? Are there any nice neighbours you could have as friends (same age or older/younger)?

None of these friends have any children and I've tried spontaneous but they all seem to have made plans or just can't be bothered because they have "just got into their pj's" at 5pm!

Yet they forget that I have dropped everything for them in the past when they needed me!

Hello .Bless you it's hard isn't it .I found it hard to make friends when I become a mum.do you have playgroup you can go to or a leisure centre that does mum and child swimming ?even now I have 3 friends but only one of them is a true friend .but don't give up get yourself out the house where possible to the park etc and you'll make new friends