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Original poster

No contact for a week and then a sudden message from him...

21 replies

Mina1990 · 20/08/2018 23:43

Hi,

Spoke to a very nice man last week and half way through our chat, he said he was sorry but needed to go due to work or something. Was going to delete his number as I assumed that he'd forgotten about me as I didn't hear anything back from him since.

But it's Eid tomorrow (muslim celebration) and he just text me saying --- Happy Eid Mina :)

Does this indicate any interest from him or is he just being friendly? Am I perhaps reading too much into it?

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TokenGinger · 20/08/2018 23:49

My best friend is Muslim, and it’s common practice for her to copy and paste the same Eid message, altering the name, to all of her contacts out of courtesy. Special friends get a personalised, more in depth message.

Is he Muslim too? Or is he not Muslim, but has picked up on politeness and used this as a way to start conversation?

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Mina1990 · 20/08/2018 23:51

tokenginger

He's sent just a photo to somebody else that I know but actually written mine. Haha, I know it's only three words but nice that he's remembered my name :)

Yes he is indeed :)

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TokenGinger · 20/08/2018 23:53

It is nice, I hope it leads somewhere for you :)

Eid Mubarak!

Goostacean · 20/08/2018 23:53

Why don’t you reply, and ask a question about how he’s been or something? If he responds and strikes up further conversation, maybe he’s interested. If he ignores it or shuts the conversation down, then he’s not. :)

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Mina1990 · 20/08/2018 23:55

tokenginger

Blush Suddenly I don't know what to say!

Would saying - thank you, I hope you have a good eid too surrounded by friends and family :)

Or is this just too much and should I just say - thanks. you too (hahaha that's awful but don't want to seem to eager)

Thank you :)

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Mina1990 · 20/08/2018 23:57

Goostacean

I want to literally shout and say - hey, I've been waiting for over a week and checking my messages every hour! But I won't ;)

I don't want to come of as eager...just yet

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tabularasa35 · 21/08/2018 00:00

What about, "same to you, how/where are you celebrating?". That opens a conversation...

tabularasa35 · 21/08/2018 00:01

Hmmm now that I think about it, that may look like an invitation. So try "I am doing such and such, what about you?".

Eid Mubarak btw!

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 00:02

tabularasa35

Hmm... that sounds alright. Although I know where he spend it because he told me about it all during our call last week. But... I think I'll hold up until tomorrow and then reply Grin

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 00:04

tabularasa35

Thank you. He know's I'm on my own this eid as my family aren't here :(

Haha suddenly feel like a little girl who receives all her birthday presents a week early!

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PolkaHots · 21/08/2018 00:08

How did you meet him ?

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 00:13

PolkaHots

At a friends wedding. My family and his were invited. Everyone was Pakistani and we were the only Turkish family there. And they were Turkish too so we all sat at the same table and we talked throughout the evening then exchanged numbers but he didn't call till about a week later then stoped and now this message :)

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Goostacean · 21/08/2018 00:14

Hahaha, yeah, don’t write that...! 😂

Something like “thanks, Happy Eid to you too! Have you had a good week?” Short and sweet.

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 00:19

Goostacean

Hahaha! Okay I will do... but tomorrow ;) Make him wait eh Grin

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 14:54

I sent a message this morning and he just said - thank you :)

Tried to keep the conversation going by saying do you have time if I ask you a question? (what's the best place to stay in when visiting Antalya as that is where he's from)

He answered and then I said - okay thanks for your time and have a good day

He said - no problem, you too :)

Guess that is the end of that then haha! SadSadSadSadSadSad

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 14:54

I had so much hope hahaha! SadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSadSad

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flumpybear · 21/08/2018 14:57

As I've said before be aloof and he'll either come running or keep going - not worth losing your dignity over imo

Optimusprimesmother · 21/08/2018 15:01

mina plenty more fish in the sea!

If he messaged again in the future reply (if you want) to in the same style.

Sometimes men just like to cast their net to see who bites back!

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Mina1990 · 21/08/2018 15:10

Optimusprimesmother

You're right... I guess most of them are after girls that throw themselves at them at the first instance... Ahh well, not my cup of tea :)

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User1011 · 22/08/2018 02:38

“okay thanks for your time and have a good day”

That to me sounds like you’ve finished talking to him and have/want to go.
That’s what I’d gave though.

wheresthehope · 22/08/2018 03:04

I agree with user1011... I think you cut that sort yourself :(
Why don't you just ask him out for a coffee or something? Take the bull by the horn! He can only say no, that wont be that bad and then you'll know where you stand!

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