Hi,
I'm 28 and I've known this guy since we were 8 years old. We started seeing each other around 16 and then broke up at 18. And again started seeing each other from 20 years old up until 2 weeks ago. We were each others firsts for everything. The relationship was lovely but in the last year, things have gotten really tough.
I finally decided to let me family know that we were planning on getting married and the reaction was far from positive from. Despite all the negativity I received, I stuck by him and said no we will still get married. But then his behaviour started changing and he would get mad if I spoke to my parents, hung out with my family or if I did anything for them.
He said that it's either going to be me you pick for the rest of your lives and abandon them or you chose them and I'm out.
Obviously, I said I'm sorry but my family are everything to me. They have raised me and made me into the person I am today. Yeah they do have the wrong idea about you but we can work on that together as a couple. We've gotten through so much and we can handle this together too. But he wasn't having it and stopped contacting me for 2 weeks.
He called me today as if nothing had happened between us. And then later on send a message and said; what's your final decision. So I called it quits with him and told him not to contact me again and that I had had enough of his childish games.
The majority of the relationship has been lovely but most of the time, it's been words and no action. For example we dreamed of owning a cottage and moving in and doing this and that but I see no action from his end. I'm slaving away and working two jobs and he does a shift here and there when he feels like it.
In the past 6 months he's accused me of 'being like other girls (gold-diger!)' just because I said 'oh it would be lovely to have a countryside wedding with all our family and friends'. If you had asked me 4 years ago, I would have wanted no wedding but now that I do - I'm suddenly like the rest haha!!
Have I made the right decision or will I truly regret this later on in life :(
Even my feelings have calmed down in the last 6 months. And I often told him this; that I didn't feel the same way about him because of the way he was treating me. But he never did anything about it.