Nowhere to go

[Luckyseventy]

I haven’t anyone to talk to in RL.
I’ve run out of energy regarding my husband. Fed up of him drinking and not spending time with the little one. Told him so many times that I’m not happy and that he needs to stop drinking but he hasn’t. I’ve said to him that i know he’s not gonna stop drinking as he enjoys it so much. He can’t stop himself once he’s started and he will be out for hours on end.
I’ve told him I can’t be with him anymore. He’s demanding that the little one lives with him, but he can’t physically look after him. Hasn’t a clue how to feed him or even change him. He’s said that he’s not letting me take him.
I have nowhere to go and I don’t know what to do. I haven’t got much money saved up.
Thank you for taking the time to read. I’ve kept it simple so it’s not too long winded!

I feel your pain deeply .. 😔

I’ve felt it for a few months but then we sort things out. Then a week later he will go back out drinking and not bother going in to work. That’s what frustrates me, he will take a day off work sick as he has a hang over, but won’t plan a day off to spend it with his son.

@Mrs are you going through similar? Sorry to pry x

Have you got any family to stay with? Someone will suggest womans aid will help. Hugs to you. Stay strong.

My mums place is tiny and is for over 60s only. I feel I’d be wasting woman’s aids time and I’d rather they spend the time on someone that actually needs it

You wouldn't be wasting Women's Aid's time. You said yourself you have nowhere else to go, you need to leave your husband and it's not safe to leave your child with said husband as a) he has a drink problem and b) he is unable to look after him properly. That's exactly the kind of thing they are there to help with. Tell them you need temporary accommodation and then help with organising something more permanent.

He says he hasn’t got a drink problem. He doesn’t drink every night, it’s just when he does he can’t stop and will drink for 12 hours and won’t come home till the next day.
I’ve told him that baby will be coming with me as he doesn’t know how to look after him. He said that I’m being horrible and that as he works most days then he doesn’t need to know how to make a bottle or how to bath him. I said that there’s plenty of parents out there that work full time and even work away but when they get home they know how to take care of their children. He just thinks I’m being nasty but I’m trying to make him see that he should be stepping up

I’ve got loans out for him and credit cards. I’m worried he won’t pay so then that will leave me in a lot of debt

He's a binge drinker. Very unpredictable.

Perhaps he should be the one to leave. Does he have anyone with whom he could stay? As long as he pays the debts of course.

Being apart from you might make him realise how much he has undervalued you.

(((Hugs)))

He’s gone out for the night, could be to the pub or could be a friend or a member of the family, who knows! He implied family but he’s alteady been thinking so may go back to the pub.
He’s told me that once we split up that’s it. I suggested a while back about taking a break but he refused.

Already been drinking that should have said

I told him tonight that I’m going to look for somewhere else to move as I’m sick of his drinking and he replied ‘oh yeah!’ So he doesn’t think I’m serious. Ive told him I’m serious, I really am, I can’t cope anymore. The thing that’s holding me back is finances.