What's a good completely free dating site?

[dragonflyflew]

I spent a fortune on match (didn't read the small print) and it was slim pickings in my area and age group.
I tried pof but hated the interface and found it quite grim
Is there any free sites that aren't completely gruesome?

Thank you 😊

Been single a few years, haven't found one yet. But someone will come along and suggest one I'm sure, I give up dating, much more fun being single

I met my OH on ok Cupid. I was messaged by a lot of young guys though.

Thank you kaykay!
I love being single but I would also like some sort of partnership and intimacy. I'm just not meeting the 'right' guys.
If I go out (rare) it's usually a meal or in an impenetrable group . If not in a group and get to mingle I seem to attract much younger guys or guys my own age wolho have drug/alcohol/mental health issues.
I've met and dated a fair few guys since divorce, I'm in my 40s and it's been slim pickings. I don't want to meet another childless 40s man who expects me to be at their beck and call, hence thinking I can be more specific on date sites.

onanothertrain thats great news, how long ago?!
thank you 😊

Badoo, met my other half on there.. here we are two years down the line, him moving 4 hours from his home town to be with me and a little baby boy born two months ago! X

4 years ago

Tinder (met my partner on there but you have to wade through a lot of dross)
Ok Cupid for more unusual people (freaks 😂)
Bumble is like tinder but posher.

OkCupid was ok actually (also 4 years ago) but lots of young men, some a bit saucy - but no dick pics or anything offensive.

Best result was Guardian Soulmates, but I think I paid. Annoying as I was only on it a week or so before meeting someone on there (and still going strong. 😄)

I met my DH on plenty of fish. First (and last) time I ever used a dating site.

It can be a bit dodgy on there though. I had to delete and ignore an awful lot of messages from creeps. But the odd one yes through and is worth the wait

I suspect there’s more chancres and time wasters on free sites. More to sift through.

I had loads of success on Ok cupid and none at all when I paid for the guardian one even though I was the most stereotypical Guardian reader at the time!

Hey y'all, thanks for replies.
As a leftie I had a look at guardian soulmates, had to complete my profile and upload a pic. There's literally FIVE people in a twenty miles radius of me within my age group.
Four of them don't have kids!
I can't contemplate paying again after match dearth!
I tried bumble before, an equal dearth geographically.
Badoo was lively but not great choice.
I think that my age is not attractive to a lot of guys (46!)
I guess they're the kind of guys I don't want anyway.

Hey OP are there any meet up groups you maybe interested in. Surround yourself with men and you may find one. My friend works for British rail - male dominated and she has no end of offers- she’s 55.
What about cycling running rock climbing clubs?
Dancing ie Ceroc/Jive/Swing.
That’s the route I’m going down. I’m certainly not interested in a Dick or a Dick Pic - GRIM.
Good luck.

There’s a VERY slow turnover on GSM. The good ones get snapped up There simply isn’t the volumn of people outside London.

You’re right about the age thing though. I expanded my ideal age range by a couple of years. It’s worth having a look.

I joined plenty of fish after my friend met her husband on there.

Yes there are some creeps but I think that's true of anywhere, including real life, online they're just concentrated in a shorter space of time!

I had very strict filters, didn't reply to people who sounded weird and met up with people faitly quickly once we'd messaged and seemed to have things in common.

Met up with about 5 men, all perfectly nice and my now husband was one of them!

I prefer tinder and bumble as you both have to like each other to message. Still a lot of men looking to sext.

I know people slag it off but I met DP on Tinder, it's good as people can only message you if you swiped to express an interest in them so you don't get as many weirdos messaging

They are all shit. If you live in a city, due to numbers, it will be a bit less shit.

Living near London, the numbers are great and I've met several interesting women and barely any weirdos!

In order of preference, my apps of choice are:

OKC
Tinder
Badoo
POF
Bumble

I'm pretty much the same age as you dragon and looking for similar so stick with it and I'm sure you'll find some sane and interesting men soon enough.

Lots of false profiles on all sites. When I was single joined some as a free member. All that meant was that couldn't message anyone or read received messages.
I'd get a notification such-and-such has messaged me. Then clicking on the tab to see who's viewed my profile, the name didn't appear? A con to get you get you so sign up as a paid member so you can read the message. Even as a paid member, bombarded with fake profiles.

As a man, not many ladies message you. So decide to cancel membership. Then the minute you do, your inbox suddenly fills up! No such thing as a free meal. Pay for everything.

Thank you for your responses.
I joined pof and OKC , the pof app is way better than the website.
Chatting to a few local who seem nice, time will tell. I approached some, got so many messages on pof can't respond to them all, I have heard this is quite normal for that site?!