Does my ex just see me as a friend

[Hugomurgo]

I ended the relationship a couple of months ago and immediately regretted it. When I asked for another go he said he thought he was better alone...many issues involved. But we've stayed friends and see each other quite often. Sometimes a couple of times a week. We have a great time together and he will talk about things we should do. He always seems keen to meet up. And I know he doesn't see his other friends as often as he sees me. I would love another try but I'm too scared to tell him for fear of losing his friendship. But my gut tells me he could be feeling the same...or does he really just see me as a friend. I know I should ask him but I can't cope with more rejection. Does anyone have any sneaky ideas to find out

Haven't you already asked him and he said no? Sounds like the ball is already in his court. Maybe explain you want to see him less as you are going to struggle to maintain boundaries as friends with such regular contact. To be honest you both will.

You're the one who ended it but YOU can't cope with a possible rejection?

Either carry on as friends, or ask him and see what he says. Perhaps remember why you ended it in the first place?

My son split with his girlfriend of 3-4 years a few months ago (they'd been living together, with her kids, my son paying for everything as she's a SAHM). She finished with him, he left, she wanted to stay friends, they used to meet up for drinks/evenings out/weekends away. She swapped and changed her mind, the dumped him again - he was devastated. He's fine now - but don't mess this bloke about. You want to be with him or you don't.

The break was a culmination of a lot of crossed wires and difficult circumstances and yes, total stupidity on my part. We had a very good relationship before that and loved each other very much. I asked him for a second chance only a couple of days later, which was probably too soon. He's a proud guy and I don't think he'd come to me and say he's changed his mind. But what I suppose I'm wondering is, would he really want to spend much time with me if he didn't feel something. Everyone we know knows how happy we were. Should I really let that go