Fed up of my partner downplaying our relationship in front of his kids. My partner of 2 years Seems to not want his children to see me as his partner. example:
Never inviting me out with him and his child. I brought it to his attention as he often speak about us having a future so I said it would be nice for me to be invited on some of their day trips so I could get to know the child. This slightly improved however I notice he asks me to join them when he knows I have something else on.
He has three children 6, 22 and 23 from other relationships. One of them came to stay with him for the week. He had a function at his house which I attended and he wanted me to stay the night. I agreed but then he said he would arrange for his 22 year old daughter to stay with a relative. I was very offended. I know this was not so we could have sexy time as I had a female operation which meant no sex. I got the impression that he felt uncomfortable with me staying over with his “adult child” around. He always stays at my house and is around my 15 year old child. I would have preferred him to have been honest and say he felt u comfortable rather than saying he would arrange a sitter.
Another example, we were having a phone conversation and his youngest asked multiple times who he was speaking to and he did not answer. I encouraged him to answer the child’s question and he said that she had walked off. This just reinforced my thoughts that he is not comfortable with them knowing who I am.
Im fed up of feeling like I’m not good enough to have a relationship with his kids. His youngest child aged six does not know my name after two years. It’s embarrassing. Makes me realise that the relationship is probably not what I thought. He plays boyfriend role eg knows my family, been on holiday with me and my family, supportive in so many ways but likes to keep his kids to himself. Am I being silly?!