My (ex) dp likes it rough in bed, and I like him to take control. It's not always full on but rarely entirely vanilla.
Up until now he's always listened if I've asked him to stop something/ease off. I even joked about being too fragile for him right now.
This time he didn't stop.
I was already in pain from SPD and ill too. I was in no mood for more pain ... He ignored that and only stopped inflicting pain when I started crying and said I couldn't take any more. Didn't stop fucking me though. I was done in by then and just let it happen. Fell asleep after in his arms but in shock.
After a while I asked him why he did it. He said it's what he likes. I said it meant I couldn't trust him anymore etc tried to get him to see, desperately hoped he might apologise and do anything to make feel better but he has acted like he couldn't care less. So it's over. I did the right thing in ending it right? I'm scared shitless at giving birth without his support. Of having a newborn without him being around. He was good at looking after me. I'm gutted. I miss him I feel so let down and confused by the sudden coldness... How do I get through this? Am I supposed to now just let him know when the baby's arrived? Am I supposed to provide contact?