Finding contentment alone

[pinkpixie83]

How do you find contentment alone?

I've realised recently that I'm looking for a partner probably for the wrong reasons.

I need to focus on finding contentment alone I think. I have an active life as much as possible when a single parent to three children. I work, I help with one of the children's clubs. But I find myself bored frequently. They see their dad minimal time really, three days and one over night a month so hard to find anything to join in that small amount of time. I have struggled to make friends with people in a similar situation so while I have good friends at times I can struggle to fill child free time which leaves me lonely.

Silly but I want a connection with another adult, to feel like their is someone who cares that can give me a hug, spend time with all the normal things, but I'm wondering if I'm not attracting the right people because I'm struggling with that contentment of being alone. At times I'm very happy in my own company but there are also times when I crave the contact from another adult.

What you are saying is 100% normal for many people . You want adult company . Who says you have to be totally happy with your own company ? Some people on threads and therapists and the myriads of self help books ? I feel exactly the same as you - I do a lot of stuff on my own and am capable of doing so BUT it is so much better fun with someone else that you gel with . You mention friends and you also mention partner so not sure what it is you are looking for - try looking at Meet Up in your local area or OLD ? Good luck !