Relationship with my DH since birth

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Help, since giving birth to me DS 3 months ago I have found it very difficult being intimate with my DH.
I absolutely adore him still, but any touch makes me recoil 😷. Sometimes he will kiss my neck and it takes all my strength not to pull away.
We have had sex twice since the birth, and both times it has been fine and I have enjoyed it. But I have no desire to do it at all. I have no desire to kiss him or hug him either.

Help! Is this normal? As I said I really love him and want everything to be back to normal.

Twice in three month? Well done. Took a long time for me to ready.

Your body and hormones are in mother mode. Not wife mode.

Very normal. Give it time for things to settle and heal.

Been 10 months here and I have only just started like my partner again ;)

It's very normal, just make sure you are communicating how you are feeling to DH

Make sure you tell him it's your hormones. Men can be tempted elsewhere when they are not having sex and your attention is (quite legitimately) on your DS.

Make sure you tell him it's your hormones. Men can be tempted elsewhere when they are not having sex and your attention is (quite legitimately) on your DS.

Not if they’re decent they can’t!

I don't find many post here have decent partners or relationships.....

Completely normal. It’s also a physiological way of protecting yourself from getting pregnant again as you have your DS to look after.

Took me 6 months to let my DH anywhere near me.

Stop putting pressure on yourself and enjoy these wonderful, exhausting, early days with your baby.

NadiaLeon

What a totally ridiculous thing to say. The reason you don’t see many posts talking about their wonderful partner is because those people don’t need to come here for advice. But if you look hard enough, there are plenty of examples of the good men out there. You sound like you are legitimising that behaviour. No one has to give a reason as to why they don’t want sex, no means no, you’re attitude is what is wrong with the world.

Totally normal.

I have a super clingy 11 month old and I feel touched out all the time, the last thing I want sometimes is DH touching me too!

Luckily this is our second child so we know that it's normal and it passes. I think I was happier with touching after about a year and then normal service began to be resumed at about eighteen months, when DS was more independent and actually slept.

It's just a phase, it will pass.