What counts as “unreasonable behaviour”

[Ilovebolly]

Following on from one of my previous threads, I’d be interested to know in a divorce what counts as unreasonable behaviour.

I think I will probably have to go the separation route as , although I don’t love my husband any more, and there are many things I think are unreasonable/annoying I’m not sure they’d be enough to cite in a divorce. As an example, he plays way too much sport, is grumpy and irritable with the kids, is emotionally distant. There are many, many other reasons, almost death by a thousand cuts type scenario.
So I’m wondering what others would consider as valid reasons to divorce.

Anything actually counts. Whatever you seem as unreasonable is enough. It doesn't have to be life changing reasons, if they are personal to you and they are enough to make you want a divorce, thats enough. Or thats what my divorce lawyer said to me anyway.
I gave 4, 1 major and 3 that were personal to me. Some people prob could have lived with them, but that didn't matter. x

That’s really interesting to know that it doesn’t have to be massive reasons. I’d also be interested to know how historic the reasons can be i.e. if he did something a few years ago that I still feel lingering resentment about, can that be used is is that not possible?
Sorry for so many questions, I have a lot to try and get my head around!

They must meet a bar of unreasonable but are generally what a couple can agree. This is why there is pressure for no fault divorces as it can cause acrimony agreeing words.

If you say he played too much sport, you can list the consequences, i e petitioner felt isolated and neglected.

A judge doesn't usually turn it down, unless your H appeals as in recent high profile case.

There are benefits to a quick divorce but if finances and childcare are issues then it can take years anyway. Mine took nearly 2 years as had to go to court.

I would start with finance discussions and childcare, see if there is agreement, a divorce petition can cause strong emotions so best to get the practicalities sorted and then decide what to use as a petition.

Thank you for that practical advice. I’m keen to keep things as amicable as possible when the time comes so perhaps separating and then divorcing would be better for us. Yes, there will be childcare and financial arrangements to sort out. I’m thinking perhaps a legal separation agreement and then divorce after the appropriate time might work better for us.