Getting over narcissistic ex

[Justgetoutofmyhead]

My relationship with my ex ended at Christmas when he literally disappeared, ignored my attempts at contact and immediately went public with a new partner. I've since found out he'd been seeing us both at the same time but she was his first choice, I was just sex.

He was incredibly manipulative, hot and cold, used to lie, gaslight me and always kept me on the outside of his life. He'd criticise then act loving, I never knew where I stood. His new partner is fully involved in his life, he's become dad to her toddler kids, he sees her all the time and she's public.

I keep thinking what was wrong with me for him not to commit to me. He totally messed my head for the 18 months we were 'together' yet I still miss him eight months later and feel so jealous.

You dodged a bullet. Try seeing it that way.

Why would you feel jealous? This man is a lair and manipulated you. What's to miss?

His actions say nothing about you and everything about him.

Focus on work, family, friends and you!

I was involved with a narc, didn't know what he was until afterwards but omg the headfuckery and confusion he caused was unbelievable. There's nothing wrong with you, feel sorry for her as she will endure what you went through at some point. If he's a true narc, he won't change.

My narc is still involved in my life, it's just not a sexual relationship but he still tells blatant lies and gaslights. He really needs to go for good.

Why would you feel jealous? She has hooked herself a dishonest immoral manipulative creep. It is only a matter of time before she is demoted and the next girl becomes the priority while he just uses her for sex and messes up her head.
And this paragon of virtue is acting as “daddy” to her child until he slopes off with someone else and leave the child feeling rejected as well.
You are well out of it. Treat yourself to a makeover & find someone a million times nicer. And when he sees the new glossy you, for heavens sake don’t take him back!