I called my ex something terrible today

[WellDoneTiger]

I don't like writing it although it has a nice ring to it. And it's an accurate description of him. I used the words that he has often used against me and he was angry, responding that I was abusing him and that he would call the police.

Ok so it's alright for him to say it to you but not the other way round?

TBH it sounds like it was a toxic relationship anyway and sounds you're best off out of it. Forget about it and move on.

Why did you do it? To hurt him as he’s hurt you?

I’d avoid talking to him if neither of you can be civil.

I did it because he's been abusing me for decades. I did it because every word is accurate. I have long known what he thinks of me. I have posted here many times about it. He has behaved shockingly since the death of my mother and has only taken interest in her will, So I called him a Money Grubbing Cunt Fucker.

Sounds like you've been brave enough to stand up for yourself!
Don't worry OP, I'm sure many of us have said worse

Also a big Thank You to all you MNers who over the years have helped me to articulate this!

I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your mother.

For me, not supporting you through life’s most awful events is a deal breaker.

Why are you talking to him if he's your Ex? And if he's your Ex, the Will's none of his beeswax.

Sounds like you didn't go far enough to me.

I have an ex who could be described thus. I will take note of your accurate description and file it away for future use

Take care

Well good for you, some people can dish it out but can’t take it. I’d block the ex though unless you have DC, otherwise just restrict your responses to contact arrangements and ignore the rest.

I doubt the police would care unless you were to ring him up for the sole purpose of cussing at him, tbh. They're not going to march you off in chains because a discussion with your ex got a bit heated, although they might go so far as to say don't do it again, please (which you probably wouldn't anyway - it's been said, and thoroughly deserved by the sound of it).

I'm not sure sinking down to his level is the best way to go. My opinion is it's better to keep your dignity intact, however satisfying it is to call him a C U N T (foul word).
Just my opinion, no judgement.

I rarely get angry with people. Probably not often enough. I have never before called anyone such a thing! I wouldn't call him a cunt on its own. I have one as part of my anatomy and so it wouldn't be true. It is bizzarre that he has no memory of the things he has called me.

He threatened to start a fight with my family when they were coming to stay. I went through hell to find them somewhere else to spend the night. He later asked where they were and that he thought they would be at our house.