Hi
My husband and I have stayed together following the revelation of his affair with someone he worked with. The affair lasted about 6 months and had ended before I found out. We then had 6 months of trying to deal with it whilst he was coming out of the affair fog. She was being persistent during that time to try and rekindle it.
Finally, after the initial denial of it being more thsn emotional he admitted they had slept together and had sexual touching but never penetrative sex. Due to issues with ED in the past I chose to believe him.
Move forward a year, we have both worked hard at rebuilding the marriage. The woman, although still occasionally being a pest, seemed to have moved on. He regrets it MASSIVELY and I do trust he would never do it again. We have made a lot of effort to both understand where it went wrong.
Today I had contact with the woman's now divorced husband. He had been suspicious and wanted to know what happened from my perspective. I told him.
He has said they were definitely having sex for 6 months. I don't know how to feel now that I know these details.
Should I just move on and forget about it? Clearly I'm not stupid enough to not think that this was what had happened but to have it confirmed just makes it hard again.
What would others do?
Thank you.