OW gave DD7 Victoria’s Secret Bag

[sunshiney78]

Not sure if I’m just being over sensitive about a petty thing because I’m super tired. EXH left for OW last year & DD now goes to their’s EOW & the odd days during school holidays.
Today EXH brought DD7 back to me after work, him carrying a Victoria’s Secret Bag with some of DD’s drawings etc. in.
DD7 casualty mentioned later that OW gave her the bag to put her stuff in.
When we were married EXH would buy me lingerie from VS whenever he went abroad (seems like another life now that I don’t even have money to buy M&S!), so I know it would have been lingerie that he bought OW.
Is it not a bit inappropriate to send DD back to me with it?

Oh, I should also add that we’re sorting financial of divorce & EXH says that he’s “unemployed” & doesn’t have any money.

A bit thoughtless but not sinister

She could've bought herself pyjamas or gym wear or a new hoodie - not necessarily underwear - it's not an unsuitable shop for a child to go in at all. And your daughter wouldn't have batted an eyelid at the bag.

But I can definitely understand you feeling sensitive about it due to the links between you & your ex. But I'd recommend to pick your battles & maybe try to let this one go....for your own sake.

Hmm either thoughtless and insensitive or a passive aggressive move on his behalf! You know him best OP. But as it was him carrying the bag (and presumably him that knows what was bought in it) its not necessarily the OW's fault.

Oh yes, I wasn’t going to mention it to anyone. God knows my battles are massive and many at the moment. It just made me feel a bit funny.

Sure your kid could have asked specifically for the bag if she thought it looked nice or whatever. They are quite pretty bags. Not necessarily some negative intent behind it.

The truth is you will never know! My stbxh has sent the children home in t shirts that say things like "daddy's sidekick and "daddy's little princess". All this he treats them as if their disposable! I just keep the t shirts and say no more.
Dont worry about it let it go.

On face value VS isnt an inappropriate shop, sells underwear as well as clothes. I think an ann summers bag would be though.
Either way Id let it go as thinking on it wont help you.

Yeah she may have just bought a hoodie or something. I’d really try not to let it get to you.

I'm going for passive aggressive

Perhaps send her back with an Agent Provocarure bag

If he’s done it on purpose be glad you’ve got rid op! As others say, not worth the argument, but yanbu