Narcissitic Partner who drinks

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My partner has NPD and when he drinks he is very unpleasant and abusive to me. I don't drink. I am plotting my escape but I can't get out for a year or so due to financial reasons. Most non drinking days I can manage fine but his drinking days are awful. Today is a drinking day. Tonight he is emotionally abusive.
I can't go anywhere due to commitments at home, so I have to stay home.
Anyone got any suggestions how to get through the bad days. I already keep out of his way, go to bed etc (which I get more abuse for), avoiid him etc.
I don't have a big circle of friends (he has seen to that, being a narc),
and my family are not local & don't know the nightmare I am in anyway.
Coping strategies anyone? TiA

I am plotting my escape but I can't get out for a year or so due to financial reasons.

Do you want to detail those reasons? Because anything you've been told by this dickhead is probably bollocks.

You really don't need to spend 6-9 months sexually servicing some fuckwit in order to be an independent human.

Luckily I'm not sexually servicing him, those days are gone thank god! I just have to tolerate being under the same roof - when he's not drinking, he's less abusive so its fine, its just the drinking days. I have debts and we are partners in a business hence I can't just walk out. But everything is in hand. Luckily my doctor is great & I've had counselling so I mainly cope. x

I'm in a very similar boat. I keep trying to leave and then caving in again because it feels so hard and I hate conflict so much.
I'm angry a lot of the time which is horrible and I'm not sure if I'm just blaming the relationship. I just keep on doubting myself constantly and he also works hard to define my reality for me - do you know what I mean??

Mine also goes on a major charm offensive after he's been horrible and/or acts like I haven't even tried to break up with him which is partly why it's so hard to do. It's like he completely ignores it which kind of give me no-where to go with it

Google the grey rock technique? Just make yourself so dull that he gets nothing out of your interactions with you. Don't rise to his nastiness, react to his abuse or in any way play his game.

Be careful though, because when they sense that you're leaving they can ramp it up. If you have any inkling that he could turn physical you must leave, business/debts or not. Life is too short to waste it living in misery but you must definitely put yourself in danger.

Thank you everyone, and sorry there are others in the same boat, I feel your pain & anger. I don't love mine & I now see striaght through all his behaviour, I dream daily of my new life where I don't have to put up with him. That said, when he is horrible it still affects me & I wish it didn't. I need to work on that but my counsellng has helped so much. I am going to Google tha grey rock thing now, many thanks for the tip.
Today there won't be any apology here and I need to recky what alcohol is left in the house so I can hide or dispose of it before a repeat performance. My lovely stepchildren are here to help, they see his behaviour & they are kind & supportive to me, he is never ever horrible to them, just me. We often plot to get rid of the booze together so I will enlist their help today bless them.
Thanks everyone xx

House is now alcohol free, narc is behaving like nothing happened as usual.
Thank you for the Grey Rock tip, its now in operation! Fantastic, thank you!