At last - got to poke hm in the eye (not literally sadly!!)

[Twinkie]

Spoke to x2b last night - he has put the house on the market and had people round to see it already - Hoorah good for him.

I asked him what he was going to do then and he said to buy himself a little place - No sorry Honey you can't until we have been to court - er what do you mean I thought we had sorted all that out - er he has not spoken to me about finances other than the shitty form I got from his solicitor saying that I would get about 20% of our wordly worth - yes well that is what is going to happen - NNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is not going to happen as I won't settle for that - well that's all you're getting, even if we go to court thats all you are worth.

Didn't get too angry just told him that I was worth far more than that and he could sell the house if he wanted to but he had a long spell living with his mother ahead as I would not agree to anything other than 50% of the equity on the house (not touching pensions etc) and so the conveyancer would be holding the money after the house sale until the divorce had gone through and we had settled on how much I would get - he was stunned he just thought that I would agree to what he wanted - well girlies I have new resolve and am going to fight all the way until I get my 50% (at least) and hopefully if we go to court the judge will see what an arrogant tosser he is and award me more (oh have sent him a Withouth Prejudice subject to costs letter so hopefully the judge will deem me reasonable and he will also have to pay my costs!!).

Thanks for all the help last week when I was going mad - I feel much better now - lets hope that the house will sell quickly and he will be cramming himself into the spare room at hos hideous mothers!!

Oh and he has not started another job yet - he told me last night that he has made himself deliberately unemployed!! - SO he may be able to get legal aid (althoug anm not sure) but he will have to pay it all back when we settle!! And if he doesn't get legal aid e better settle cause he won;t have a way of paying for the court fees and all anyway!!

Hoorah - I feel so much better like I for once am in control!!

Anyway Thanks Everyone. XXX

Woohoo! Go Twinkie!

Hooray! Good for you Twinkie.

Very pleased for you Twinkie, you go girl!

Yippee! That sounds more like you, Twinkie!

That's the spirit. Serves the sod right.

nice one twinkster
keep it in focus, it is yours, oh to see his face at the moment of deliverance
Well done lassie!

Go girl go!

Years ago, the xh of a friend of mine deliberately made himself unemployed, and the judge told him that he had "deliberately and wilfully made yourself unemployed in order to avoid paying maintenance, but in my court, those tactics don't work, Mr X."

Hope you get the same judge!!!

Well done Twinkie, all power to your elbow - so glad you stood your ground with him!!

Fantastic news, Twinkie! Serves the arrogant t*sser right!

Well he has just phoned me to say that he has had lots of people round to view the house and what would I accept as an offer!!

Why the F is he asking me - its not like I am going to get anything (in his mind anyway!!) and why the F should I care and most of all why is he trying to act nice - 'oh I just want to be sure that we are both singing from the same hymn sheet' - Er no buster we are singing in completely different fucking churches of polar religeons!!! - He is an idiot - the money will be sitting with a convenyancer for god knows how long until he decides to be reasonable anyway!!!

AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If anyone knows a divorced man who has been fleeced and is happy to go and tell him what actually happens in the real world please tell me and I will give you his address!!

Hah! And with a sharp stick, too.
Go Twinkie!

Hurrah! Oh, I do so hope this is the beginning of his comeuppance... go Twinkie, go Twinkie, go Twinkie (chanted in a Jerry Springer audience-stylie).

But no thats the thing he has no idea at all - there was I thinking he was trying to persecute me and being an utter bastard and he just has it in his thick head that he can dictate everything - he really believes this - Doh!!

Well have spoken to my solicitor and she has said she hopes he gets some good advice and once the house is sold and he has the money in the conveyancers hands realises that all in all it would be weasier to settle!!

Fingers crossed - I would so like to be divorced by the time Max makes an apperance and at the rate he is growing it looks like it will be sooner rather than later and if we haven;t sorted it all before I go on maternity leave I will me mumsnetless as not sure my boss will let me take my laptop home for the duration if he knows I am not coming back!!