I am feeling very uncomfortable and looking for advice.
I have just finished a relationship of a year and a half. I was very happy at the start but things just weren't working out. I finished the relationship one week ago. Unfortunately it transpired that he was building up to propose and he was distraught that I felt so differently. I felt horrendously guilty but also incredulous that he could have imagined I'd want to get married. I got divorced only a year ago (separated 2.5 years) and have recently bought my own flat with my three young kids. He asked at that point if I would live with him; I said definitely not. I just want to live with my children. There was no suggestion i would want to marry him. I feel so sorry for him, but also that he was not reading the signs.
In the past week he has contacted me constantly. He has driven hundreds of miles to where I was on holiday with a friend for the weekend with an engagement ring. He has sent messages day and night, reams and reams of messages. He has recorded himself reading love poetry to me. Today was the final straw when he visited my family to tell them how much he loves me.
I can't cope with this. I have been being kind to him as I am worried about his mental well-being. He seems so vulnerable. But I am now feeling a bit scared; he is acting so obsessively I am scared he could harm me.
I don't want to be cruel as he is begging me to remain friends. But I feel a bit frightened. He has always been secretive and a bit of a loose cannon. I'm scared he's had keys cut; he could easily have done this during the relationship.
He has always been kind to me but is volatile. That's one of the reasons I ended it.
Any advice would be appreciated.